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post #16 of 197
7/12/10 at 12:56am
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i did for about a year and it was pretty exhilerating till she realized that she could do better then me (inevitable byproduct)

Yes I figured this would happen.
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post #17 of 197
7/12/10 at 12:57am
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I think in one way or another, all of my exes have been a step ahead of me. Sure, dated some morons over the years, but they never last long. All the girls I have kept around have had an edge on me somewhere...

That's the whole point of a relationship, no? Having someone who is mentally stimulating around.
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post #18 of 197
7/12/10 at 12:59am
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That's the whole point of a relationship, no? Having someone who is mentally stimulating around.

That's the point of this threak. I wish it was easy to find these supposedly common types of women.
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post #19 of 197
7/12/10 at 12:59am
My ex was this person. Very smart, very charismatic. Easy to get along with. Much smarter than me, although admittedly it isn't exactly the biggest accomplishment in the world.
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post #20 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:00am
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That's the whole point of a relationship, no? Having someone who is mentally stimulating around.
you know in theory I would agree with you, but then I know plenty of boys - especially here - with hot dumb things that they have been with for seven years and are yet to have a conversation in any depth beyond what are we having for dinner. In a lot of cases, they seem pretty satisfied in those relationships...pretty stress free environments for them on the home front. I couldn't do it, but hey, I'm not them and I'm not judging. As long as they're happy...
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post #21 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:03am
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you know in theory I would agree with you, but then I know plenty of boys - especially here - with hot dumb things that they have been with for seven years and are yet to have a conversation in any depth beyond what are we having for dinner. In a lot of cases, they seem pretty satisfied in those relationships...pretty stress free environments for them on the home front. I couldn't do it, but hey, I'm not them and I'm not judging. As long as they're happy...

I know and interract with a lot of expats around the world and the power imbalance seems to be the main motivating factor behind their relationships so yeah.
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post #22 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:09am
Dallas-Ft. Worth is not the place to meet smart, interesting chicks. Gold diggers with great bodies, yes. Women who'll want to go see Godard revivals with me, not so much. One caveat - friend of a friend who may be exiting a relationship (as am I). Hoping we're single at the same time and can give it a run - she's a teacher, studying for her English/lit MA, hot, funny. I would say that in any event she'd realize she can do better than me, but I've met her current boyfriend, he's a loser.
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post #23 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:09am
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I know and interract with a lot of expats around the world and the power imbalance seems to be the main motivating factor behind their relationships so yeah.

^^ This. I tried once, beautiful girl, bored out of my mind.
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post #24 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:10am
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^^ This. I tried once, beautiful girl, bored out of my mind.
yup, me too. Tried more than once actually. I end up treating them really really badly just because I am so bored that I bat them around for sport.
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post #25 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:10am
okay, this is going to sound really self-centered. i'm clearly narcissistic on a few levels though, so i'm allowed.

i consider myself intelligent in the first place, and even moreso in the city i live in. guys who meet me either don't "get" my wit, or else they're initially excited by it. this feeling of excitement wanes quickly though, because i think most men ultimately want a more docile wifey figure and not someone who's going to constantly propose a mental challenge to them. it makes sense that a challenge gets tiring after a while, but i always get kind of annoyed when guys keep insisting they'd kill to date an intelligent woman. it's a little unfortunate, but i'm pretty sure most actually intelligent women went to post secondary and were force-fed feminist rhetoric, and due to this find it difficult to reconcile their independence with being the wifey figure every guy seems to secretly want. if guys have dated intelligent women and not enjoyed it, it's probably for this reason.
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post #26 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:11am
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Dallas-Ft. Worth is not the place to meet smart, interesting chicks. Gold diggers with great bodies, yes. Women who'll want to go see Godard revivals with me, not so much.

I don't think its possible to maintain a relationship with someone who doesn't share some modicum of cultural interests with me. WTF will I talk about? Gossip mags and her "career"!!??
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post #27 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:12am
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okay, this is going to sound really self-centered. i'm clearly narcissistic on a few levels though, so i'm allowed.

i consider myself intelligent in the first place, and even moreso in the city i live in. guys who meet me either don't "get" my wit, or else they're initially excited by it. this feeling of excitement wanes quickly though, because i think most men ultimately want a more docile wifey figure and not someone who's going to constantly propose a mental challenge to them. it makes sense that a challenge gets tiring after a while, but i always get kind of annoyed when guys keep insisting they'd kill to date an intelligent woman. it's a little unfortunate, but i'm pretty sure most actually intelligent women went to post secondary and were force-fed feminist rhetoric, and due to this find it difficult to reconcile their independence with being the wifey figure every guy seems to secretly want. if guys have dated intelligent women and not enjoyed it, it's probably for this reason.
marry me.
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post #28 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:19am
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Dallas-Ft. Worth is not the place to meet smart, interesting chicks. Gold diggers with great bodies, yes. Women who'll want to go see Godard revivals with me, not so much.

One caveat - friend of a friend who may be exiting a relationship (as am I). Hoping we're single at the same time and can give it a run - she's a teacher, studying for her English/lit MA, hot, funny. I would say that in any event she'd realize she can do better than me, but I've met her current boyfriend, he's a loser.

snake in the grass,i once knew a guy who would wait to pounce on chicks as soon as they became available,fuck he annoyed me
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post #29 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:20am
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I don't think its possible to maintain a relationship with someone who doesn't share some modicum of cultural interests with me. WTF will I talk about? Gossip mags and her "career"!!??
My previous relationship wasn't terrible... except on this point. She read shitty historical romance novels, believes a psychic predicted her brother's death and never expressed interest in movies aside from comedies and horror. I took her to the SF MOMA and she was bored to tears - and unironically made a "three-year old could that" crack. She thought I was weird for being excited about a new translation of Tolstoy short fiction. The sex was fantastic, and I'm down with comedies and horror - but eventually I felt like I was dumbing myself down by staying with her.
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post #30 of 197
7/12/10 at 1:31am
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That's the point of this threak. I wish it was easy to find these supposedly common types of women.

You do realize your strict physical criteria makes such women quite uncommon. The women I've met who meet such criteria tend to be married to men who own their own hedge funds, private equity firms or etc. Perhaps your task would be easier once you have your own hedge fund.
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