Originally Posted by Soph
--- 3 times. But love is not a permanent state of mind. And the divorce rate is against you, as is the unhappy marriages. I'd say about 20% of marriages are actually "great, happy". So why not co habitate rather than marry. Why does this legal, financial contract hold so much status in society as this symbol of love etc. when it fails more often than succeeds.
Love can be
a permanent state of mind. Your saying "the divorce rate is against you," etc. is a fallacy. You are simply saying that the majority of marriages end in divorce--that doesn't mean yours will. There are far too many factors involved to say that because the divorce rate is X% that means any marriages have that X% chance of ending in divorce. Statistics doesn't work that way.
Further, just because one signs a legal piece of paper doesn't automatically mean the relationship will end. Nor does NOT signing it mean it will be forever joyful.
Your latter question of why marriage holds the position in society it does given
the divorce rate is perfectly valid however. And I think it's a good question. Why do people still marry (why am I marrying in a few months)? Well, I suppose for some it's because it is "what you do," or because it is a quick way (if you want as short as 20 minutes of your time) to codify a ton of legal rights.
My fiancee and I are both atheist yet we've chosen to marry to, in a way, say that this is for real. We could just hire a lawyer to write up the equivilant power of attorney, wills, etc. but let's have a big party and tell everyone how we feel about each other and gain all of those rights at the very swift swoop of a pen. The state will now have no power to divest us of these rights (inheritence, hospital visitation rights, etc.).
And, no, I have no idea if this is logically consistent or even answers the question.