Should a guy who got dumped lie to his ex that he's seeing someone new?

seems like a dick move. Just move on and do you thing bro.

Probably won't work. Here are the options: 1) You tell her that you're seeing someone else (possibly to induce a sense of jealousy). She finds out you are lying at some point in the future, and realizes that you said that to act like you were over her, when in fact you weren't. Puts you in a bad position with her. 2) You tell her you aren't seeing anyone else, and want to get back with her. She sees you as desperate, and wants nothing to do with you. Again, bad position. 3) You do nothing to initiate conversation, get over her, and move on with your life. You either start dating someone else, or start hooking up with random girls. Win.

What do you want her to do? Beg you to take her back? That's pathetic. She's probably moved on already and you should do the same.

Why would you want contact with someone you were going to dump anyway? Also, why would she call you after she dumped you? It's over. Just move on. God forbid you tell her a lie and she finds out that it's not true.

Why be a dick just for the sake of being a dick? Forget about it man. Harboring hatred doesn't do you any good, and getting "revenge" for her being a dick first doesn't do you any good.

Do this^^.
Stop trying to flatter yourslef. She has probably seen the pipe since your breakup. Move on!

OP - I would tread very carefully...

By going this route, you may very well be giving her the last push she needs to be convinced that any possible remote feelings she may have for you are no long warranted. Besides, in her mind, "you've already moved on", right...?

Now, if the two of you speak somewhere down the line and the proverbial 'how have you been?' question comes up, I wouldn't exactly disclose the fact that you've been; sulking, drowning yourself in thoughts about her, and in such contemplation about ways to get her back that you resorted to soliciting help from SFers... Not saying you would do this or trying to be a douche but hopefully you get the logic by now.


As previous posters have noted, best bet here on out is to just scratch that idea and get on with your life.

There is really no need to keep your ex informed at all, whether you are seeing someone or not. I know you may not want to hear this but the fact of the matter is she has probably moved on in at least some capacity. This is one of the most overly used sayings in the book but it's so unbelievably true - there are plenty of fish out there!

I wouldn't be surprised if she gave you a buzz some time in the near future. If she doesn't then you simply have to come to grips with the fact that she's over it and you. You should be, too.

Go out, improve your game and your style, spend a little bit of money, date around, don't look at her networking sites in any way, etc.

Keep your mind off of her, move on, and do your thing

- E63

If you're going to play a dick move, play a truly epic one. Bring the new girl to your ex's place of work and let her see the new squeeze. Maybe have some pics of you two banging uglies? Or just email her a video?


Wait, wut? You don't really have a new squeeze and are just going to lie about having one?

Don't listen to these virgins.

Be a MAN and DO IT. Put her in her place. Show your alpha side.

Make sure you record the phone conversation and upload on here so we can ALL see how its done.

Much better is to call her and tell her you had some gay sechs on the downlow with her father and that he advised you he is HIV-positive, and it's time for everyone to get tested.

DT response (because that's where this will end up) is to do what Davidko or Douglas said. Real response...Are you kidding me? Only bad things can happen.