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post #91 of 507
Next time, give them a Mantonesque style ass chewing!


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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post
Ever since I was a finalist and appeared on the Today show, I can't escape discussing my clothes with acquaintances and friends now eye me up and down every time I see them. Even worse, they always look disappointed and skeptical. I wore a blue OCBD under a navy cashmere v-neck jumper and grey trousers with longwings to a holiday party; an acquaintance approached me with a confused look on his face, then stated: "You aren't very well dressed today." Friends keep track of what I wear and say things like "Isn't that the same jacket you wore last week?" and "Oh, I heard wingtips were out of style" and "That's so 80's!" Of course, they also ask for advice, which I try not to give. But then push comes to shove, and I make a recommendation. At least a dozen male friends have asked me what kind of shirts I like to wear casually. When I tell them I like Brooks Brothers OCBDs (and explain what those are), they grimace and point out in a pitying tone that they've already upgraded to Pink or Tyrwhitt. I'm sick of explaining what my "hankie" is for and why it doesn't match my tie. Everyone has asked me at least once where to buy a "cool pinstriped blazer" to wear with jeans. A good friend introduced me to his girlfriend for the first time and pointed out proudly that I was one of the "best-dressed men in America." She laughed and blurted out "But you dress like a dad!" Somewhat sheepishly coming to my defense, he explains that I dress "very unique." Every guy asks me for what I think about their clothes, but in a disingenuous, bragging manner, as if to make sure I know I didn't deserve to be a finalist because his jacket is Kiton/Brioni/Zegna/Armani/RLBL. I always politely say "Very nice. I like it." They follow-up with: "Do you know where I got it?" "Huh, I dunno." "It's a Kiton/Brioni/Zegna/Armani/RLBL." "Oh, cool. Good stuff." "What designer is yours?" "Oh, I had a tailor make it." "Oh . . . well, check out Kiton/Brioni/Zegna/Armani/RLBL. I got a gay friend who works at Bergdorf/Saks/Bloomingdales who says it's the absolute best." And the shoes. Oh god. People look at my shoes like I'm a homeless person with dirty cardboard strapped under my feet. No, they're not Gucci or Ferragamo. Yes, I know I can get them for what I paid for these. Shut up, shut up, shut up.

Suddenly everyone's a critic and a fashion editor. It's not my self-esteem or confidence at stake, but my sanity. I don't like talking to people anymore because they can only seem to talk about what I'm wearing. Let this be a lesson to others.
post #92 of 507
This thread bugs me, but mainly because of the feelings of futility from a few people. Specifically when foo said this:

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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post

Eh. That's not me. I try to be as friendly as possible.


It reminds me of guys who don't get girls and are confused because they are so nice, why can't this girl appreciate that?? You are well-dressed and respectful, why shouldn't people just leave you alone?!? Being nice, as you can see, is not going to make your problems going away. Foo, I really like and respect you, but you've got realize that you can't just be nice in all these situations; every once in a while you have to be able to put someone in their place. As someone else pointed out, you're pre-approved by the public AND Esquire, you definitely hold the upper hand every time someone is trying to take a jab at what you're wearing, and so if the conversation ends with them feeling good and you feeling annoyed that's 100% your fault.

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Originally Posted by poorsod View Post
They are jealous.

1) You made it to the finals. So both the public voted and the editorial staff voted for you.
2) No one else has their own internet meme. :foo
3) Price of FAME.

Note that you are King of the Fashion Hill (so to speak) in your social circle and it is the job of your friends to bring you down. Realize you have high ground and can stomp on them if you so choose.

Totally agree. I hold the belief that in any social situation, you're never helpless; there IS a good way to deal with the situations you mentioned, and you should figure out what it is (even if it means not being nice). Becoming more of a public figure has necessitated the need to sharpen your conversational fisticuffs.

Personally, I really liked the suggestion of, "Oh, you wouldn't understand!" said in a completely playful/harmless manner as if to say "I'm totally not serious when I say this," when asked why your pocket square doesn't match. But because you are *officially* good at style, they sort of have to take that seriously. It's a small jab in the other direction.
post #93 of 507
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Originally Posted by srivats View Post
Even if you dress really sedately, dressing well is going to make you stand out, whether you want it or not.

does anyone here actually not want to stand out by dressing well? i call BS on all these people who say 'i dress for me'. i laugh when girls say it and i laugh more when styleforumites say it. if they 'dressed for them' they wouldnt bother soliciting feedback on their outfits.

the people around here like to be amongst the best dressed just like they love to be the best at everything they do. they like the satisfaction of being very good at what they do (dressing, careeering, photography etc) and they love it when people recognise it.

mafoofan strikes me as the kind of guy who relishes at being the best at what he does. his competitiveness oozes out of every argumentitive post he makes. its probably how he also got the university marks he got and the job he got.
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Originally Posted by Mr Herbert View Post
does anyone here actually not want to stand out by dressing well? i call BS on all these people who say 'i dress for me'. i laugh when girls say it and i laugh more when styleforumites say it.

the people around here like to be amongst the best dressed just like they love to be the best at everything they do. they like the satisfaction of being very good at what they do (dressing, careeering, photography etc) and they love it when people recognise it.

+11190q384!

I've brought this up multiple times in threads (re: you dress to get attention, not yourself, LDO) and had it ignored. People feel shallow saying it, which is the reason for all the BS you're getting.
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the people around here like to be amongst the best dressed just like they love to be the best at everything they do. they like the satisfaction of being very good at what they do (dressing, careeering, photography etc) and they love it when people recognise it.

You clearly over estimate the sort of people on SF.
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Originally Posted by teddieriley View Post
You clearly over estimate the sort of people on SF.

i actually thought it was a bit of a cynical assessment of them.
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Originally Posted by Mr Herbert View Post
i actually thought it was a bit of a cynical assessment of them.

I read it as if to suggest SF is a bunch of over achievers. Some are. Many clearly are not.
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Originally Posted by teddieriley View Post
I read it as if to suggest SF is a bunch of over achievers. Some are. Many clearly are not.
As evidenced by their WAYW photos.
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Originally Posted by Made in California View Post
As evidenced by their WAYW photos.

I almost went there, then decided best I didn't.
post #100 of 507
Foo, you should count your blessings that people look disappointed and skeptical.

The conversations could have gone the other way. I love that suit, where did you get it? I want to get one like it, how much was it?

You know the sh*t you get from the geeks here, imagine real life.

And as it has been said, you are too smart to not have seen this coming.
post #101 of 507
i imagine the dreaded question for a rubi wearer, 'i love that suit, how much was it?'
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Jordans FTW!!!
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Originally Posted by J. Cogburn View Post
Foo, the correct, all-purpose response is "How about I get you a hot steaming cup of shut the f*ck up?"

Direct, to the point, and funny. You're 28, so you can get away with it.
Everytime I am reading statements like these, I can't help but imagine the poster in his real life environment going around and only talking in sentences he had to learn by heart prior to leaving the house in order to be able to actually talk in full sentences.

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That is the greatest song. Ever. for knowing what Im talking about.
I doubt he meant the song.

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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post
I want an MP. I'll never get one, but I want one. Of course, the problem is that there are very few 35mm film scanners available these days and they're not that great. The best models went out of production a few years ago and/or cost a fortune.
I am sure you said that about a Rubinacci suit not too long ago.
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Originally Posted by mafoofan View Post
I want an MP. I'll never get one, but I want one. Of course, the problem is that there are very few 35mm film scanners available these days and they're not that great. The best models went out of production a few years ago and/or cost a fortune.

What about an Alpa 12TC?

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