I should never have entered Esquire's BDRM contest.

Originally Posted by mafoofan

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It's not my self-esteem or confidence at stake, but my sanity.
I feel I should point out that you probably lost it when you ordered six pairs of the same shoe. It's too late now - just embrace the insanity .

Originally Posted by robin

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I feel I should point out that you probably lost it when you ordered six pairs of the same shoe. It's too late now - just embrace the insanity

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This is extremely perceptive.

How's the real winner, Dan, doing in Kenneth Cole?

Well take comfort in the reality that Ive never heard of you, couldn't care less about you or your style and if I saw you on the street my train of thought wouldn't be interrupted one bit.

here's one thing. you seem to take it in stride. it tests your patience and your nerve. it rubs you the wrong way. it may set you on edge and derail you at any instance one of these punks /douchebags come up with another retort that may break the camel's back.

however, it doesnt. i hope it didnt. you want to know what real best dressed 'gentleman' is? one who's got the whole package and it is not all what you wear over your skin. im sure you already knew all this.

Originally Posted by mafoofan

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This is extremely perceptive.
I am just trying to fill in for Vox until he shows up.

Originally Posted by LabelKing

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How's the real winner, Dan, doing in Kenneth Cole?

Originally Posted by robin

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I am just trying to fill in for Vox until he shows up.



Evidently moths do not exist in NYC.

Awesome story. You're a smart guy. If any of the consequences you are experiencing has truly come as a surprise (or that you didn't know how annoying things would become), then it demonstrates you are still a rookie in several respects.

Originally Posted by teddieriley

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Awesome story. You're a smart guy. If any of the consequences you are experiencing has truly come as a surprise, then it demonstrates you are still a rookie in several respects.

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teddie, that's a totally different kind of attention from what foo is talking about. yours is a pure compliment . from a woman. flirtatious endorphin-producing make your day sort of stuff.
foo's is more of a stigma he is having to deal with , a fallout from the press. he is compared , dissected and critiqued and verbally abused (not obviously) in circumvent manner disguised as a 'compliment' perhaps. totally different thing.

From one NYC associate to another--I think a major part of your problem is your location, and that it would be just about as bad if your colleagues knew that you regularly posted on this forum, but you'd never entered that contest. Heck I get annoyed just overhearing some of my colleagues talk about style, much less having to discuss a pocket square with them.

You know that almost every male white collar professional in this city who cares what he looks like also thinks he's a style expert, but primarily dresses according to NY nightlife trends, what his other douchey colleagues told him was currently cool, and what his girlfriend/female friends think is "hot." Clothing here is almost entirely either a) status driven, or b) bargain driven. I know very few young professionals who don't either shop at some store they regard as an upgrade, like Pink, or think they're smarter than everyone for using a bargain traveling hong kong tailor that's "a lot better than those other ones." They're really into custom tailoring, even though the most they could probably tell you about the fabric they selected is whether it's a super 120s, and the color, and they only got measured once so the fit looks about the same as tailored off the rack. "But check out this awesome bright red lining!" Peacocking is a major element of this style. Ultra-shiney, plush ties with windsor knots are another part of this--your unlined ties with a FIH will seem really strange to guys who think the bigger knot the better. When one's primary motive in dressing to display their income, style is a pretty empty term.

Single young professionals suddenly earning six figures, in a city designed to take their money by constantly making them feel outdated and not desirable enough, are never going to understand your style/the aesthetic prevalent on the SF or promoted by blogs like ASW.

Living in Manhattan, you don't stand a chance at sanity if your colleagues your age are trying to talk to you about style. Since everything's a dickswinging contest here to the extreme, in the context of style there's just no way out of this one aside from a location or profession change.

Just tell them "whatever, I can't be bothered to think about clothes any more".

Originally Posted by robin

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I am just trying to fill in for Vox until he shows up.

Originally Posted by mafoofan

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Suddenly everyone's a critic and a fashion editor.

A little ironic coming from anyone who posts frequently here. Just saying.

Foo, the correct, all-purpose response is "How about I get you a hot steaming cup of shut the f*ck up?"

Direct, to the point, and funny. You're 28, so you can get away with it.