Originally Posted by mgoose
my non-professional $.02
Human sexuality is much more fluid than many people would like to think. I really don't believe that you are born straight/gay and stay that way for the rest of your life. There are a number of enviromental factors that determine your choices and I firmly believe that people can legitmately go through phases.
The problem is that because the gay community suffered for so long, they are very defensive about it, and don't want to admit that it can just be a phase for some people.
I was talking with a friend last summer, who had only ever slept with men and he really, really wanted to be with a woman, but he had no idea how. We started talking about why he had only been with men and when he was younger and shy, people labelled him as effeminite so he started down that path and felt like he got stuck with it.
I also heard about a straight friend of mine who got drunk and got a blowjob from some dude. he was curious, tried out and it wasn't his thing.
It's like chasing amy, if you try to leave your camp, go back and forth, you seem to be not welcome by anyone, but hopefull that will change in the future.
To the op: 14 years is a long time, maybe you just want some fresh, wether it's pussy or dick, my honest advice is try hooking with a few dudes, see how it feels and decide if you want to ditch the gf, I know it's an asshole move, but be safe, and that way you won't burn bridges.
It's not just gay rights being butthurt (lol) over persecution, sexuality really is that rigid for true homosexuals or heterosexuals. As I said before, I've dated both men and women, and have pretty much even attraction for both. One cold say that bisexuality is fluid, but really, that's all.
Originally Posted by The American Psychological Association
No, human beings cannot choose to be either gay or straight. For most people, sexual orientation emerges in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience. Although we can choose whether to act on our feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed.