At what point your life did you find "real love" ? - Page 3

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OP, take your time. You're 19 years old; it's a little early to be worried about finding "real love." Just spend some time being young and taking advantage of that, and the rest will follow. Maybe you find someone soon, maybe it takes a while, but the worst thing you can do is start stressing it at 19.*





* I say all of this as a person who found "real love" at 20, so I believe it's possible, but there's no need to rush it.

Fell in love at 22, could have married, things fell apart in a really confusing, odd way... and we talk still, but the magic is pretty much gone from that, because you can't really leave from the same station on two different lines, end up later down the line at the same station, and expect to have seen the same things... so I agree with Eason, true love is a fairy tale concept and finding someone with an agreeable personality who you really like to fuck is arch. If they're happy with your financial status, whether it be high or low, and they meet the former criteria of being not annoying and a satisfying lay, then they're wife-able. I have a woman now (whom I met when I was 26, had a birthday, and then starting seeing her just after) who is like a 10/10 in all of the above categories, it's pretty unreal sometimes... I just say that she is 'an interesting lady'.... she asks me not to buy her stuff because she has plenty of money of her own, she doesn't work and I don't really work either, so we get tons of time together and don't pressure ourselves to squeeze romance out of what isn't there, she lavishes me with gifts of obscure designer clothing bought in Tokyo that she knows I like, she cooks for me (and is culinary school trained with a certificate in French) and she can make anything, so we cook stuff together and that's a lot of fun, she's down for anything I want to do, including going to the pub with me to meet my friends and drink beers with me (she'll get a Hoegaarden and nurse it usually, but she can fill juice glasses with vodka and drink it in two goes if she's pissed off) and I like to drink and she's fine with that, she has E cup breasts, a tiny little ribcage and belly, big hips and butt, and is like 5'6 and 100 lbs, she looks exquisite (former TV model) and I just want to fuck the shit out of her whenever I see her. It's a good matchup. We have some epic fights but the good times are good. I don't know if we'll get married though. I'm just trying to be a good guy.

Am I the only one who thought I had found it with my high school gf. Only to look back after the fact and realize we were just horny teens.

Also, real love is subjective. OP probably means finding a keeper.

I'm 26 now and haven't felt very enthusiastic about many of the women I've dated recently. It's basically a test of patience with me doing things to increase my chances of finding somebody awesome I guess. Not quite as ez-mode as things were in school. At the same time I've figured out fairly well what types of women I don't prefer. That's a plus.

"Real love" is an evolutional mind-trick that makes us yearn for the felling of comfort and belonging which we had experienced or had been denied when we were children.
We look for unconditional love, which is impossible to receive from a stranger, but we still try and try and then procreate in hopes that at least we will be able to get that unconditional love from our children.
This is a summary , if you wish you could expand upon it.

oh I thought I found it about once every month in highschool....don't we all?

17 was when it first happened. Before that there was a whole lot of lust, and one moment where I confused the two. I'm currently 19, and love the person that I'm with now.


Just wondering where you got those specific psychological factors?

From observations and personal self-examination.

So what if it's an evolutionary trait? That doesn't mean it's not real. Comfort and belonging are good things - why shouldn't we be driven to find them?

Also, who is looking for unconditional love? "Real love" doesn't have to be unconditional.

I'll give you that it's a result of evolution. I'm not sure if I agree with the rest of it.

I found true love at 18. We're now engaged, and I would feel more than honored to "bang the same pussy for two decades." Sex is great, but it's no replacement for true love. And if you got great sex and true love, then you're set for life.

sure is hard to poast with her looking over your shoulder.

Just came out of a three year relationship. I honestly can't remember what it feels like to feel content being single, and right now unless I'm in a social situation I feel lonely a fuck. First relationship where I found love, but we weren't compatible. Before this I did not have the ability to love anyone. I just turned 21.