Originally Posted by GQgeek
Yes, but it ended badly for a whole number of reasons, not all of which were mine. I enjoyed my time with her but it ran its course. Among other things, we just ran out of things to say to each other. Frankly, that relationship never had a future because she didn't have the intellect or the looks to keep me interested in the long-run. It's a mistake I'm very keen on avoiding in the future.
My situation is similar. We seem to have less to say to each other lately and sometimes I notice that we tune each other out at times. She doesn't have anywhere near my level of education, though she has a quick mind, and close to no intellectual curiosity. Often she tells me about something she saw on TV; I've never owned a TV in my life.
After thinking about it -- brooding about it in a rather joyless state -- for a while, I realized that we will probably just drift further apart, especially now that I've moved further away and we'll be spending less time together than the standard one day a week (yet another issue). We will probably agree just to be friends at some point. This would be far easier on both of us than an outright breakup and far kinder to her. She would make a great mistress, but is inadequate as a main squeeze. Letting the relationship follow its natural course will probably take care of things without a painful breakup. I just can't reconcile myself to repaying her kindness with heartbreak, but it is also simply time to move on.
Originally Posted by Renault78law
I agree that she probably deserves honesty, but to tell her, even gently, that you're breaking up with her because of her looks is cruel. This comes from someone who thinks you're doing the right thing by breaking up. I pass no judgment on your situation, and appreciate your honesty.
Thanks. I agree and after reconsidering, think that a sudden breakup is the wrong approach for the situation. I also think I can address the issue of looks and style without being blunt or unkind.