Is this morally acceptable? [family drama]

My parents quit smoking pot when I was born, now their only rule for me is that if I bring it into the house, I have to share it with them. This is only bad becuase it means they get some of my stash, but I guess its better than my having to hide it from them.

Originally Posted by Inficius

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Is it morally acceptable for a mother of two kids to smoke pot?

Details
- The mother is 30. The kids are 4 and 1.
- The mother is single, recently divorced.
- The exhusband/father is a heroine addict.
- The mother is living back home with her own mother (i.e. the kids grandmother).
- The mother does it after the kids have gone to bed- in the same house, but behind closed doors.

I could go on about the mothers character, but I think this is enough information for the issue at hand.

Note: The kids aren't in any direct danger. They're being fed and cared for very well. This is solely regarding the mothers habits after the kids have been put in bed for the night.

Your opinion?

According to this post, the father is a "heroine (sic)" addict. Didn't one of your other posts say the mother left the children with the father? The mother left her children with a junkie, and you're worried because she's toking a little cheeba after they pass out?

FWIW, I couldn't care less if she gets stoned, as long as it's not around the kids. It's a stupid, unjust law, and I don't have any problem with people who break stupid, unjust laws.

If the kids are fine, why does it matter? They aren't being abused or neglected.

The mother just needs the pot as an escape. Abeit it is an illegal one but w/e.

Originally Posted by MrG

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According to this post, the father is a "heroine (sic)" addict. Didn't one of your other posts say the mother left the children with the father? The mother left her children with a junkie, and you're worried because she's toking a little cheeba after they pass out?

FWIW, I couldn't care less if she gets stoned, as long as it's not around the kids. It's a stupid, unjust law, and I don't have any problem with people who break stupid, unjust laws.

Yeah, it was part of the custody hearing. The father get's the kids a couple nights a week. I'm not sure how that happened.

Sorry, for the typo, Firefox didn't catch it.

For the record, I have very few issues with weed. In fact, I would support legalizing it because, if nothing else, the money currently used to buy it is just going to the "bad guys" (no, I'm not talking about the low level dealer, though).

I just felt as though the mother wasn't being as responsible as she should have been (too much attention on her social life) but obviously no one here agrees, so there's not much reason to keep this topic going. Maybe I overreacted, or maybe people just aren't thinking about this seriously. Either way, nothing changes except that I've been able to vent my feelings.

Thanks for posting everybody.

Originally Posted by Inficius

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I just felt as though the mother wasn't being as responsible as she should have been (too much attention on her social life) but obviously no one here agrees...

That was not the question you asked...

My money is on the OP being the mom's brother.

Originally Posted by Jekyll

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That was not the question you asked...

I know.

Originally Posted by Stazy

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My money is on the OP being the mom's brother.
That's what I've concluded as well. Although he could be the lying, cheating, heroin-addict babydaddy's brother as well.

What if she was locking herself in her room at night after the kids went to sleep so she could watch some Appreciation and play with herself? Would you feel that was wrong?

I think it depends on the frequency of pot smoking (purely from a moral standpoint and not legal). If the mom takes great care of her kids and once a while smokes a little pot I don't think it is a problem. On the other hand, if she rushes to go smoke pot every evening after she puts the kids to bed that would be a problem.

An absolute non-issue.
If it was causing major problems in here life then treat it as you would any other problem. There is nothing inherently wrong or immoral about smoking pot. You would not even consider starting this thread if the question was having a glass or two of wine after the kids went to bed, why bother when the substance in question is less harmful, causes less problematic side effects, and is less addictive?

I don't know how you guys equate a glass of wine or two with a joint. Seriously.

Originally Posted by mafoofan

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I'll be the dissent. To break democratically-created laws--even ones you disagree with--is as immoral as any other bad act because you are violating your obligation to follow a system of rules shared with others.

That said, I think "morality" is a bogeyman of a concept. You might as well ask if something is "fair" or "just" or "reasonable".

Even you can't believe this. Most laws are made without your consent or even input and are in no way democratic.
And besides that, not all laws are created equal and you damn well know it.

30 year old recently divorced mom with 2 kids under 5? she should get what ever fun she can out of life

Originally Posted by iammatt

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I don't know how you guys equate a glass of wine or two with a joint. Seriously.

Why not? In both cases - a glass or two at/after dinner, a joint in the evening- the amount is reasonable and the time (evening, not at work or while driving) is appropriate. In both cases the health risks are non-existent or minimal. And in both cases the imbiber or inhaler will still be sober enough to deal with the world.