Originally Posted by RJman
Where am I? I'll tell you where I am.
I no longer want to be part of this or any other forum since I accidentally discovered about two months ago that someone on FNB’s site started an obscene thread about my wife. To FNB's credit, he thought this was too much and took it down. I have a good idea who did it, although he did so using a proxy and a new username in order to maintain plausible deniability. After discovering that post, I no longer wanted to read or participate in any of the clothing forums I used to -- this, LL, or AKAC (someone, probably the same person, impersonated me to troll on the GQ forum and vlosuit). I’m sickened. Someone crazy and obsessive has pursued me (and Manton; even paranoiacs have enemies) for six years over the Internet. It’s one thing to be mocked, insulted and attacked online. When some insane pervert makes a vulgar, sexual thread about someone I care about who has no connection to the forums, you know what? He can have the internet and the forums. He wins. Nothing on the Internet is so important to me that I would subject my loved ones to this. It’s just clothes. It’s not funny, it’s frightening that someone would actually do this. I have a life outside the forums I care more about than this virtual existence. I don’t want to participate anymore, I don’t want to explain anymore, it’s getting increasingly absurd to have to explain in my defense that certain people online hate and resent me for differences of opinion and tone six years ago on Ask Andy, and that they improbably have pursued me (despite their bannings from all forums in which I participate) since then. I don’t want to have to keep defending and making these points to the ever-renewing horde of tire-kickers, late-comers and water-carriers for the trolls. To anyone who says, lighten up, it’s just the Internet, well, they can fucking have it.
I haven’t posted about this before for the reasons I give above. I also don’t want to make a big deal publicly out of leaving -- I want to stay away as long as I can, and hopefully indefinitely, apart from an upcoming sale post to get rid of a final crop of stuff.
No, and that's the truth. I did occasionally stop by to see if anyone had asked where I was in case I had forgotten to get in contact with anyone, but I haven't made any posts in over two months.
The Internet is a weird place. On forums as you interact with a number of people an order-of-magnitude greater than you do in your physical life, the probability you encounter a total nutjob increases at the same rate. And that is not including the selection-bias of kooks who are drawn to exist on the Interwebs.
I had some zingers leveled at my wife a while back on a forum, and though they were much more innocent and I made the mistake of initially invoking her credentials in a debate, I was livid.
Take care, man. Something tells me you won't even miss these places so much and leaving SF behind might be a net-positive move in your life. Wish you all the best.