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post #91 of 161
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That's a lot of Allen Edmonds. Are we sure it's not JLib?
post #92 of 161
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wow, that's not disturbing at all
post #93 of 161
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Originally Posted by RJman View Post
Where am I? I'll tell you where I am.

I no longer want to be part of this or any other forum since I accidentally discovered about two months ago that someone on FNB’s site started an obscene thread about my wife. To FNB's credit, he thought this was too much and took it down. I have a good idea who did it, although he did so using a proxy and a new username in order to maintain plausible deniability. After discovering that post, I no longer wanted to read or participate in any of the clothing forums I used to -- this, LL, or AKAC (someone, probably the same person, impersonated me to troll on the GQ forum and vlosuit). I’m sickened. Someone crazy and obsessive has pursued me (and Manton; even paranoiacs have enemies) for six years over the Internet. It’s one thing to be mocked, insulted and attacked online. When some insane pervert makes a vulgar, sexual thread about someone I care about who has no connection to the forums, you know what? He can have the internet and the forums. He wins. Nothing on the Internet is so important to me that I would subject my loved ones to this. It’s just clothes. It’s not funny, it’s frightening that someone would actually do this. I have a life outside the forums I care more about than this virtual existence. I don’t want to participate anymore, I don’t want to explain anymore, it’s getting increasingly absurd to have to explain in my defense that certain people online hate and resent me for differences of opinion and tone six years ago on Ask Andy, and that they improbably have pursued me (despite their bannings from all forums in which I participate) since then. I don’t want to have to keep defending and making these points to the ever-renewing horde of tire-kickers, late-comers and water-carriers for the trolls. To anyone who says, lighten up, it’s just the Internet, well, they can fucking have it.

I haven’t posted about this before for the reasons I give above. I also don’t want to make a big deal publicly out of leaving -- I want to stay away as long as I can, and hopefully indefinitely, apart from an upcoming sale post to get rid of a final crop of stuff.





No, and that's the truth. I did occasionally stop by to see if anyone had asked where I was in case I had forgotten to get in contact with anyone, but I haven't made any posts in over two months.


The Internet is a weird place. On forums as you interact with a number of people an order-of-magnitude greater than you do in your physical life, the probability you encounter a total nutjob increases at the same rate. And that is not including the selection-bias of kooks who are drawn to exist on the Interwebs.

I had some zingers leveled at my wife a while back on a forum, and though they were much more innocent and I made the mistake of initially invoking her credentials in a debate, I was livid.

Take care, man. Something tells me you won't even miss these places so much and leaving SF behind might be a net-positive move in your life. Wish you all the best.
post #94 of 161
With RJman's departure, we are now 50% more impoverished in terms of Charvet bespoke shirts and French bespoke shoes, which means we've also become 50% more like AskAndy. At least, that's what the official math says.
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With RJman's departure, we are now 50% more impoverished in terms of Charvet bespoke shirts and French bespoke shoes, which means we've also become 50% more like AskAndy. At least, that's what the official math says.

Keep in mind that AAAC has medwards.

But then, we have you.


- B
post #96 of 161
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While I'm not privy to exactly what happened, it doesn't shock me and it is telling that even FNB thought the material in question was too awful and vicious to keep online.
it really really really was disgusting.

we have a pretty high tolerance for disgusting in here - hell, we have a whole board pretty much devoted to it right here in DT - and it was beyond even what we would tolerate here, even if it was meant in good humor by an RJFriend. In this case, it was far from an RJFriend, meant with malice, and truly truly disgusting.
post #97 of 161
Well this just sucks. Very sorry to hear about it. Had the pleasure of meeting RJ at an Edward Green trunk show at Sky Valet many years ago - before RJ's spell in Freedom - and have followed his posts with interest ever since (no homo).

RJ's value around here as a poster cannot be questioned - will be sorely missed.

That said - I'm a 99% lurker and 1% poster - and keep my online presence (SF and otherwise) to an absolute minimum - for exactly this reason.
post #98 of 161
He was well -- but busy -- when we last e-mailed.

Of all the SF members I've met ... I put RJman at the top of the heap. He's a good man.
post #99 of 161
Obviously I'm late, as I almost never click on the "where's so-and-so" threads. I can only offer belated condolences and regrets to RJ, a wonderful poster and person.

As for the one who made whatever these comments were, he's demonstrated once again that he's a sick individual. I mean that without any hyperbole whatsoever. A person who can cling to grudges like that and do some of the things he's done is in need of serious psychiatric assistance.

It's this very type of person that makes me think three times about revealing anything about myself online. I've been stalked before; nowadays, it would be even easier with the proliferation of the internet.

The terrible thing, though, is that he's probably reading all these comments and feeling gratification.
post #100 of 161
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Originally Posted by RJman View Post
Sorry, man.

Maybe I can work out something with YoungAmerican and his blog.

Send me an email - jesse@maximumfun.org. F'reals.
post #101 of 161
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Obviously I'm late, as I almost never click on the "where's so-and-so" threads. I can only offer belated condolences and regrets to RJ, a wonderful poster and person.

As for the one who made whatever these comments were, he's demonstrated once again that he's a sick individual. I mean that without any hyperbole whatsoever. A person who can cling to grudges like that and do some of the things he's done is in need of serious psychiatric assistance.

It's this very type of person that makes me think three times about revealing anything about myself online. I've been stalked before; nowadays, it would be even easier with the proliferation of the internet.

The terrible thing, though, is that he's probably reading all these comments and feeling gratification.

+ a big F'ing 1

Sad to hear this had to happen to RJ.
post #102 of 161
WTF. Now who's gonna PM me asking for my opinion of vintage dressing robes?

(Btw RJ, I still don't know why any dood would wear one.)
post #103 of 161
Perhaps someone took a screenshot of said offensive thread.
post #104 of 161
I totally missed this and obviously feel bad for RJ and wish I knew who the poster was so as to make sure and avoid him but this is one of the reasons I try and not partake in any serious back and forths with people and also why I am extremely hesitant to meet internet people in real life, even those of you that seem "normal".
post #105 of 161
holy moly, that's a bitter pill.
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