Originally Posted by RJman
Where am I? I'll tell you where I am.
I no longer want to be part of this or any other forum since I accidentally discovered about two months ago that someone on FNB's site started an obscene thread about my wife. To FNB's credit, he thought this was too much and took it down. I have a good idea who did it, although he did so using a proxy and a new username in order to maintain plausible deniability. After discovering that post, I no longer wanted to read or participate in any of the clothing forums I used to -- this, LL, or AKAC (someone, probably the same person, impersonated me to troll on the GQ forum and vlosuit). I'm sickened. Someone crazy and obsessive has pursued me (and Manton; even paranoiacs have enemies) for six years over the Internet. It's one thing to be mocked, insulted and attacked online. When some insane pervert makes a vulgar, sexual thread about someone I care about who has no connection to the forums, you know what? He can have the internet and the forums. He wins. Nothing on the Internet is so important to me that I would subject my loved ones to this. It's just clothes. It's not funny, it's frightening that someone would actually do this. I have a life outside the forums I care more about than this virtual existence. I don't want to participate anymore, I don't want to explain anymore, it's getting increasingly absurd to have to explain in my defense that certain people online hate and resent me for differences of opinion and tone six years ago on Ask Andy, and that they improbably have pursued me (despite their bannings from all forums in which I participate) since then. I don't want to have to keep defending and making these points to the ever-renewing horde of tire-kickers, late-comers and water-carriers for the trolls. To anyone who says, lighten up, it's just the Internet, well, they can fucking have it.
I haven't posted about this before for the reasons I give above. I also don't want to make a big deal publicly out of leaving -- I want to stay away as long as I can, and hopefully indefinitely, apart from an upcoming sale post to get rid of a final crop of stuff.
I am very sad to learn about this. Spouses and kids should be off limits. A serious threat is unacceptable.
I would really miss you and you are one of the better posters here so I really urge you to reconsider and stick around. The place would not be the same without you.
Don't let them win by leaving however. Stay around SF and at least keep up with your friends here.