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post #1 of 11
5/19/10 at 5:21pm
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ok, all joking about my mother in law from hell, I am wondering for those of you who hate your in laws, how long it actually takes before you start yelling when you see them?

I can't go 24 hours in the same town without an explosion happening. I know this is extreme, but how extreme is it?
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post #2 of 11
5/19/10 at 6:38pm
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Originally Posted by globetrotter View Post
ok, all joking about my mother in law from hell, I am wondering for those of you who hate your in laws, how long it actually takes before you start yelling when you see them?

I can't go 24 hours in the same town without an explosion happening. I know this is extreme, but how extreme is it?

Well. hmmm. I get along quite well with my in-laws, but a few years back we took them to Rome and shared an apartment in the city. Before the week was out I was ready to jump headfirst into the Tiber.

The dry part of the Tiber.
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post #3 of 11
5/19/10 at 6:42pm
BTW, was it in Annie Hall where the guy gets over the first-date jitters by kissing his date at the beginning of the date? Perhaps you could do something similar but instead of kissing, you might administer a quick kick to the rear as soon as you see her and do away with the whole pretensions of civility. Clear the air, as it were. Although, for your sake, I hope she didn't sneak a brick through customs in her handbag.
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post #4 of 11
5/19/10 at 7:36pm
Never. Although the first time I saw my in laws was when we were shopping for a king sized bed at IKEA for their daughter. Afterwards her father and I put it together while the mother stood in the way. Was annoyed right at the onset.

I got over it, for the most part.
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post #5 of 11
5/20/10 at 1:26am
I guess I'm fortunate, in that I have no in-laws.
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post #6 of 11
5/20/10 at 1:30am
i am actually on the reverse side of the in-law from hell phenomena. i love my mom, but i never imagined she would be so evil to my wife. luckily for my wife's wisdom , she has eventually won her over but she still is vigilant when near her.

my in -laws are great. nothing but great times when seeing them.
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post #7 of 11
5/20/10 at 1:49am
my mother in law is a great gal, and it really breaks my heart that she remains adamant of not getting treatment and at this rate we'd be lucky if we'll be spending christmas with her this year. but MY mother is one thats really hard to get along with, she's the type that would smile at you even if she has issues and then you'd hear it later on from other people that she's saying that you're so-and-so (actually did this to me too!), and she's the type that not only would NOT say nice things about her otherwise great kids in front of her friends when we were young but would even tell them that the only thing we were know is asking for allowances which is totally untrue. I'm kinda happy that, at the least, she doesn't say things about my wife in front of me and our culture here dissuades full-confrontation arguments. I also thinks she really dislikes me and only maintains a relationship with me (and my wife) because she loves our kids.... so in a way my wife was the one that married into a dysfunctional family, and now teh wifey has to live with that.
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post #8 of 11
5/20/10 at 1:49am
my sister in law brags about how cool her in laws are. My mother is just one of the world's truly nice, fun, happy people. Everyone loves her. Her husband is pretty cool too. And she's always like "and Matt's a pain in the ass, but he lives on the other side of the world, so I love him" - haha My brother however....well...he tries. Her mother is nice. Her father is this weird backward country person who is basically impossible to have a conversation with. I know I should have outgrown this at like 9, but still, anything that causes my brother discomfort still brings me a slight degree of perverse pleasure.
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post #9 of 11
5/20/10 at 12:56pm
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my mother in law is a great gal, and it really breaks my heart that she remains adamant of not getting treatment and at this rate we'd be lucky if we'll be spending christmas with her this year. but MY mother is one thats really hard to get along with, she's the type that would smile at you even if she has issues and then you'd hear it later on from other people that she's saying that you're so-and-so (actually did this to me too!), and she's the type that not only would NOT say nice things about her otherwise great kids in front of her friends when we were young but would even tell them that the only thing we were know is asking for allowances which is totally untrue.

I'm kinda happy that, at the least, she doesn't say things about my wife in front of me and our culture here dissuades full-confrontation arguments. I also thinks she really dislikes me and only maintains a relationship with me (and my wife) because she loves our kids.... so in a way my wife was the one that married into a dysfunctional family, and now teh wifey has to live with that.

ah, yeah - my mom is the same way. We took them to dinner with us on our anniversary one year and a day later I got an email from my mom about how come it is that we talk to her sister more than her? Turned out that she got into a knock-down drag-out war of words with her sister, and words got hurled, and mom's feelings got hurt (and she believed her sister, which is weird). FWIW, we talk to her sister maybe a few times a year, and never see her, so I didn't get the whole heartbreak crap. I shrug it off but it gets under Mrs. T's skin at times.

For the height of irony, Mrs. T is the one who pesters me to call my folks and keep in contact. My answer remains - if they upset you this much, why keep asking that I call them?!?
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post #10 of 11
5/20/10 at 1:22pm
My first year married so far. The mother-in law is very ghetto. The whole family is just crass and it really gets on my nerves.
But at the same Moms can be stuffy and judgmental towards, well, everything. My mother was born in a trailer park type home situation but brought herself up to CEO of a good sized company. I'm just very patient and what-ever kinda mood around them. But after the baby is born it will be gloves off.
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post #11 of 11
5/20/10 at 10:04pm
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For the height of irony, Mrs. T is the one who pesters me to call my folks and keep in contact. My answer remains - if they upset you this much, why keep asking that I call them?!?

Mrs. T's a good woman! All I can say is if, god forbid, me and the wife calls its quits my folks would in all probability be the catalyst to that.
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