I don't know if anybody has any experience with this -
my sister is fucking up her life, and has been for a couple of decades. she's 46-47 now, which means that she may be able to turn around, if she tries now. in a couple of years, it will probrably be too late.
here's the thing - she grew up wanting to be in one career, it didn't work out for her (frankly because I don't think that she worked hard enough at it) and then she fucked around for a few years, and then got into graduate school in anothe field. the school actually told her that they weren't sure it they should admit her or not, because some of the proffessors were convinced she wouldn't be good at the field, but she persisted and got admited, and then graduated basically at the bottom of her class.
since graduation she has had 4 jobs in 9 years. while she was only actually fired from one, all the rest sort of fell appart on her.
now she has gotten a 1 year extention to her contract at the present job, with the understanding that it won't be renewed, so next year she will be looking for another job.
on top of that - she is probrably 300 pounds overweight - yes, that is right. she pretty much can't walk more than a few steps, and has trouble with her hygine, is falling appart healthwise. she has had this developing since high school, just getting worse and worse.
on top of that - she married a guy who is real sweet, but at 50 he has never had a job, even though he has a few degrees, including a masters.
on top of that - she is full of rage at pretty much everything, including me. she got mad at me over some little thing last year and hasn't spoken to me in 6 months, even though I have left her messages.
on top of that - she and her husband have fantasies about what they can do - he is getting his doctorate from an on line school and hopes to be able to get a job teaching at a university (at age 50 plus), she is thinking that she can get a job in a field that she has no qualifications for, just because she has a masters.
ok, so here's the thing - in a year my sister will be out of work grossly obese and with a bum of a husband. I think that is she started now, she could probrably make herself reasonably acceptable looking in a year. also, I think that if she pushed her husband, he would get a real job. the trouble is she won't push him, and she won't do anything about her wieght. I have tried, over the years, to suggest therapy to her, and to suggest other things that might help her and it has just pissed her off.
anyway, I know that I have almost no chance of success, but I am thinking that it is worth a shot to go see her and try to get her to see that she can turn her life around. otherwise I think that she will really hit a catastrophe in a year.
any thoughts, experiences?
my sister is fucking up her life, and has been for a couple of decades. she's 46-47 now, which means that she may be able to turn around, if she tries now. in a couple of years, it will probrably be too late.
here's the thing - she grew up wanting to be in one career, it didn't work out for her (frankly because I don't think that she worked hard enough at it) and then she fucked around for a few years, and then got into graduate school in anothe field. the school actually told her that they weren't sure it they should admit her or not, because some of the proffessors were convinced she wouldn't be good at the field, but she persisted and got admited, and then graduated basically at the bottom of her class.
since graduation she has had 4 jobs in 9 years. while she was only actually fired from one, all the rest sort of fell appart on her.
now she has gotten a 1 year extention to her contract at the present job, with the understanding that it won't be renewed, so next year she will be looking for another job.
on top of that - she is probrably 300 pounds overweight - yes, that is right. she pretty much can't walk more than a few steps, and has trouble with her hygine, is falling appart healthwise. she has had this developing since high school, just getting worse and worse.
on top of that - she married a guy who is real sweet, but at 50 he has never had a job, even though he has a few degrees, including a masters.
on top of that - she is full of rage at pretty much everything, including me. she got mad at me over some little thing last year and hasn't spoken to me in 6 months, even though I have left her messages.
on top of that - she and her husband have fantasies about what they can do - he is getting his doctorate from an on line school and hopes to be able to get a job teaching at a university (at age 50 plus), she is thinking that she can get a job in a field that she has no qualifications for, just because she has a masters.
ok, so here's the thing - in a year my sister will be out of work grossly obese and with a bum of a husband. I think that is she started now, she could probrably make herself reasonably acceptable looking in a year. also, I think that if she pushed her husband, he would get a real job. the trouble is she won't push him, and she won't do anything about her wieght. I have tried, over the years, to suggest therapy to her, and to suggest other things that might help her and it has just pissed her off.
anyway, I know that I have almost no chance of success, but I am thinking that it is worth a shot to go see her and try to get her to see that she can turn her life around. otherwise I think that she will really hit a catastrophe in a year.
any thoughts, experiences?
