Originally Posted by why
Something to do with honesty and past behaviors being indicative of the future. Maybe nothing beneficial for the relationship would arise from the question, but I think a partner may benefit if a problem is discovered problems sooner rather than later. Something being 'in the past' does not nor should not be sealed simply because it's not current. A person always has some vestige of their past -- it's what makes them who they are. Their partner can concern themselves with what is relevant or important. The broad prescription that it's 'none of his business' impinges on his personal decision toward what is 'his business'. The question concerns him and the answer will affect him.
Yeah this pretty much hits the nail on the head about how I feel about it, past behavior models how people act in the now, I'm not one to believe that people change dramatically...past behavior is definetely indicative of how someone might behave in the present.
It's just that the actual topic is hard to broach, and like many have said what is seen can't be unseen.
Though I'm not sure whether or not it would be a dealbreaker for me at this point, I feel like it used to but now not as much.
You guys don't think you'd be slightly turned off finding out your chick has been with multiple other guys...?