Originally Posted by MarkI
Yeah this pretty much hits the nail on the head about how I feel about it, past behavior models how people act in the now, I'm not one to believe that people change dramatically...past behavior is definetely indicative of how someone might behave in the present.
It's just that the actual topic is hard to broach, and like many have said what is seen can't be unseen.
Though I'm not sure whether or not it would be a dealbreaker for me at this point, I feel like it used to but now not as much.
You guys don't think you'd be slightly turned off finding out your chick has been with multiple other guys...?
Eh, you are just lying to yourself. How old are you, seriously? I would guess from your emotional intelligence, 20. I'm not insulting you, that's just how 20 year olds are. That's how I was.
You just want some bullshit irrelevant information to hold over her head and make her feel bad, maybe you think it will make her try harder in the relationship, or maybe it just makes you feel like a moral Jesus, sick bastard.
Past behavior is an indicator of current? Unless you are worried she will cheat on you, what behavior are you afraid of? You are saying that it is important to know whether she will go on to have many more partners after she breaks up with you? Stop lying to yourself.
A more justifiable question about the past relevant to YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP is: How long was your longest relationship? Or, Have you ever cheated on a partner? Anything else is stupid. Stop lying to yourself