Originally Posted by spertia
I can't believe that there are so many future spankers on here. I have kids and would never spank them. I think that it is simply wrong to hit little people. Physical violence as a punishment/lesson? No thanks.
I actually tried to spank my kid once. He was in an irreconcilable rage of a tantrum, and I really wanted to get him to chill out and get his attention. So I put him over my knee, pulled his pants down, and patted his butt, trying to gauge what the effective swat level would be. My wife and I were laughing at how pussy of a spank it was, but I really could not gauge my strength to his toddler pain threshold at all, so in the end I didn't bother trying. He calmed down after that, but I think moreso because he was weirded out by the situation than anything else. I honestly don't see how people can spank their kids without any element of anger.
Originally Posted by Prada_Ferragamo
I agree with you on asshole parents with asshole kids, but even beyond that, I see many kids who are spoiled and over-privileged despite economic status of their parents. My parents love me, but they drew boundaries between love and spoiled rotten. If my parents said no, it meant no; not may be. I knew the limit that I could push.
I don't think spoiled and over-privileged behavior is dependent on economic status for adults either.
Originally Posted by Piobaire
Because higher forms of thought are physically impossible for children. The concept of "reasoning" with a four year is a joke. The physical aspect of the brain has not reached a point where one can abstractly understand certain things the typical adult can, hence the difference in treatment. Before you tell me how wrong I am, just do a little reading of brain myelination in development.
Yes, but what sort of behaviors warrant that physical punishment that can't be waited out until they can be reasoned with? I have not come across any so far, but my case might not be the norm.