Do you and your SO fight? - Page 6

Originally Posted by globetrotter

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the last 3 arguments we have had

1. the last time my MIL was visiting she told me (by the way, my MIL doesn't believe that she should ever have to say please or thank you, and she inturupts all the time) that I should use my airline points to bring the family to visit her in Colombia this winter. I told her that we would come sometime, but that I wanted to go to a few other places first - like Singapore and ISrael, since we have been to colombia with the kids already a few times. she had a shit fit and yelled at me, in front of my family, about how I hate her and am so agressive to her.

2. we went to a hotel restraunt when my daughters were a year and a half old, and she took one of them for a walk in the kitchen, without telling us where she was going, and I yelled at her. that same week, she road in the back of a taxi with one of the babies on her lap without a seatbelt, and wouldn't agree to wear a seat belt, so I had us pull over and took the baby away from her.


3. we were at a large festival and she walked off with my son, without telling anybody where she went. that same visit, she told my son that he didn't have to keep saying "please" and "thank you"

Originally Posted by MrG

We're similar to this, though I don't know that we have big arguments quite so frequently. Early in our marriage we had some BAD ones, but that hasn't been the case for years. Now it's usually a quick little bickering match that ends when one or both of us stops being stubborn.

We still occasionally have a knock-down-drag-out screaming match, but they're not all that common. They also usually come bundled with other stressors - what would usually be a quick disagreement can turn into a big fight when there's something else in the mix to make things more volatile.

We can also occasionally get into a big one when my old temper flares up. When I was younger I was a hothead with a nasty temper, and this wasn't something I liked about myself. It is also one of the traits I hated in my father, and I don't ever want my family to live in fear of dad's temper, so I've really worked hard to change that personality trait. For the most part I've been successful, but it still bubbles up from time to time, albeit in a milder form. It's particularly prone to happen when I'm stressed or frustrated. Unfortunately, when this happens I can shift my frustrations to MrsG, and this can start fights. Though I have to give MrsG credit - she's gotten really good at seeing when I'm just being a shithead because I'm otherwise angry about something, and she can almost always calm me down. This has greatly reduced the number of fights in our home because she tries to be sympathetic and calming, rather than getting angry because I'm being an idiot, thus starting a screaming match.

All of the above said, even when we have bad ones they're never physical, and they've never been close. It's just a lot of yelling and storming in and out of rooms.

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

No poal, just curious. Do you and your SO (wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, tranny hooker, whatever) fight or argue? If so, is it often? Growing up, I only saw my parent's in a fight once, and it only lasted a couple hours. They in general were very courteous to each other and even if they were in disagreement, they calmly talked things through rather than getting angry and fighting. I guess it's possible that they just have been fighting behind closed doors for 23 years, but I doubt that's the case. It's similar for my girlfriend and I. We never really fight. We fought a few times when we first started going out, but as we near 5 years together, I don't remember the last time we actually fought. Obviously no relationship is perfect and sometimes we annoy the shit out of each other, but we never fight, and when we argue or disagree, we talk about it and resolve it instead of just yelling. It just seems like when I was growing up, I would always hear about my friend's parents fighting and not getting along and things along that line. So I don't know if my experience is truly odd or if it's normal to get along most of the time.

Originally Posted by thekunk07

i think couples that don't fight either have no passion or are very private about it

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

No poal, just curious.
Do you and your SO (wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, tranny hooker, whatever) fight or argue?
If so, is it often?