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Being too impulsive with purchases

post #1 of 7
4/17/10 at 1:53am
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Does anyone else have this problem, or is it only me? When I see something I want like a new pair of shoes, I won't buy it right away because I always over-analyze things, but it will gnaw away at me in the back of my mind for days and weeks on end and I'll go back and look at it a few times. Its like a tension building up inside me and the only way to relieve it is to buy it or discover some fatal flaw like trying it on and discovering it's too narrow. Even when I rationally know it's a dumb idea and a waste of money, it still bugs me long after I walk out of the store and once that urge is satisfied, another urge is never far behind.
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post #2 of 7
4/17/10 at 2:07am
most items i 'like' i go back to it a couple of days later or a week later and so on and usually the desire goes away. i notice it is not really something i really want but just a passing eye candy that aroused me that i interpreted as something i 'needed' or want. or the bargain is too great to pass up.

however, there are one items or such that even after a month of passing it up it still continues to bring me desire. i purchase these things with some calculation. afterwards, i keep them around for a few weeks and some of them move on from my mind i resell them. for a variety of reasons, they may be not versatile, not what i thought it would be, my style changes ever so slightly.
however the items that remain desirable are the classic items, and these are distilled out of my collection to keep.
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post #3 of 7
4/17/10 at 3:10pm
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^

I find it hard to resell things I own. I'm always thinking one day I'll manage to get some use out of them again or want to wear them until they're ready for the garbage.

For me going through the B&S forum is like playing the lottery.
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post #4 of 7
4/17/10 at 4:08pm
a thing that really helps is try getting into circles that really dont care about clothes like you and i do. for me it is pretty easy, because all of my family doesnt care about clothes, my work doesnt and some people we know dont.
dont get me wrong, they like to dress appropriately. they do dress clean cut but not stylish, mostly from macys and gap and banana rep which they think is high end.

so dealing with poeple like that day in and day out, i start thinking like them too and it alleviates my desires a bit.

you see, the problem for me is my wife. and this forum. they both desire highly fashionable things and then i do the same. i can stay away from the forum , but not my wife. so oh well.

i was always into clothes. even when i was 10 years old. but before my wife i always shopped banana and robinson may, and mervyns and ross and etc.

but it's the forum that opened my eyes to santoni, rlpl, pureblue japan, and margiela and marc jacobs and etc. and iti s my wife that validates it
so it can be hard

i dont know how this helps any, but just sharing like you are
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post #5 of 7
4/17/10 at 4:32pm
It's the neverending search for perfection. You're never satisfied until you found the "it" item, whatever it may be.
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post #6 of 7
4/17/10 at 10:38pm
sort of related: http://www.spring.org.uk/2010/04/six...satisfying.php
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post #7 of 7
4/18/10 at 12:08am
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Originally Posted by sho'nuff View Post
a thing that really helps is try getting into circles that really dont care about clothes like you and i do. for me it is pretty easy, because all of my family doesnt care about clothes, my work doesnt and some people we know dont.
dont get me wrong, they like to dress appropriately. they do dress clean cut but not stylish, mostly from macys and gap and banana rep which they think is high end.

so dealing with poeple like that day in and day out, i start thinking like them too and it alleviates my desires a bit.

you see, the problem for me is my wife. and this forum. they both desire highly fashionable things and then i do the same. i can stay away from the forum , but not my wife. so oh well.

i was always into clothes. even when i was 10 years old. but before my wife i always shopped banana and robinson may, and mervyns and ross and etc.

but it's the forum that opened my eyes to santoni, rlpl, pureblue japan, and margiela and marc jacobs and etc. and iti s my wife that validates it
so it can be hard

i dont know how this helps any, but just sharing like you are

In addiction circles, your wife would be the "enabler" and at your intervention, she would be told to quit enabling you.

Is she shopping on the purse forum while you are egging her on?
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