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post #16 of 32
i don't think i stated anywhere in my post that me dressing in what i would feel most comfortable in was anything but the wishes of my bride or her family.

Really?

From your first paragraph:

"While usually very prepared it has taken me close to a year since our engagement to get my bride-to-be (and her mother...and her aunt, sisters, etc.) to warm up to the idea of me not wearing a tuxedo."



listen, i know this is the "Men's Clothing" style section of styleforum but honestly, i'm fairly certain that on a monthly basis i spend more on denim and italian sportwear than you spend on matching your tie to your eyeglasses. if you think i leave the house in cargo pants and a nascar t-shirt in the morning, i'm sorry to disappoint you.

Really? Also from your first paragraph:

"I own my own business and wear worn Japanese denim, old school Vans and button-down plaids 364 days a year."

So then what do you do with the EXPENSIVE "denim and Italian sportwear" that apparantly is more expensive than my Oxxford and Brooks Bros. suits? Is it on display?
post #17 of 32
Mr D. maybe he'll look back and say wow I'm glad I didn't look like a teenager going to the prom in a notch lapel tuxedo and a pasted on tie
post #18 of 32
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrDaniels
i don't think i stated anywhere in my post that me dressing in what i would feel most comfortable in was anything but the wishes of my bride or her family.


Really?

From your first paragraph:

"While usually very prepared it has taken me close to a year since our engagement to get my bride-to-be (and her mother...and her aunt, sisters, etc.) to warm up to the idea of me not wearing a tuxedo."



listen, i know this is the "Men's Clothing" style section of styleforum but honestly, i'm fairly certain that on a monthly basis i spend more on denim and italian sportwear than you spend on matching your tie to your eyeglasses. if you think i leave the house in cargo pants and a nascar t-shirt in the morning, i'm sorry to disappoint you.

Really? Also from your first paragraph:

"I own my own business and wear worn Japanese denim, old school Vans and button-down plaids 364 days a year."

So then what do you do with the EXPENSIVE "denim and Italian sportwear" that apparantly is more expensive than my Oxxford and Brooks Bros. suits? Is it on display?

i'm sorry that in your "up and down park avenue" world that "warm up to the idea" and "kicking and screaming" are practically the same thing especially amongst my constant references that my fiancee wants me above all to be comfortable in what i'm wearing. while i'm also sorry that on a forum where bespoke suits are the norm that you're sticking out your chest about brooks bros. suits, i shall be the bigger man here and not put a price tag on 5EP and CP Company to illustrate that you truly have no idea what you're talking about. there are enough people browsing this forum that can ring you up if you'd like. i prefer to dress casual, i am sorry that offends your well balanced sense of mall-bought designer menswear.

i have no desire to have an internet argument so this will be my final reply. feel free to reply but this will be my last in your direction.

others, please continue to make suggestions. you have been very helpful.
post #19 of 32
The great thing about having a nice, new suit is that you'll have something snazzy to wear to divorce court, or to meet with your children's team of psycologists.
post #20 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrDaniels
The great thing about having a nice, new suit is that you'll have something snazzy to wear to divorce court, or to meet with your children's team of psycologists.
His wife is going to divorce him and his kids are going to be disturbed???
Because he didin't wear a cheap rental tux?!!!!!

HAHAHAAAAAAAHHAHAHAAA! You seriously don't know how funny this is!
post #21 of 32
Wear a tuxedo and tell all the other men in the wedding to wear one. No decisions required. No conflict with inlaws, friends and bride. Otherwise, you'll have regrets for a long time to come.
post #22 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by jml90
His wife is going to divorce him and his kids are going to be disturbed???
Because he didin't wear a cheap rental tux?!!!!!

HAHAHAAAAAAAHHAHAHAAA! You seriously don't know how funny this is!

No sir, I think his marriage is going to crumble and he will potentially be a miserable father due to the fact that he is so self-centered he would wait until (as he put it) more than a year since wedding plans were announced and less than two months until the wedding to ask the opinions of total strangers as to what he should wear to the big event after ignoring the wishes and concerns of his fiancee and her female relatives that have been planning the big day.

Even some of the best-dressed men on this forum (and I in no way consider myself to be even close to being one of them in my "Mall Suits" as Lysol put it [just curious...is the Oxxford Store on 57th and 5th and Brooks Bros. on Madison where most of my suits are purchased and tailored part of a "mall?"]) may find themselves invited to participate in a wedding party and be asked to wear a rental tux that might not be up to their standards of dress, but most gentlemen would just suck it up out of a sense of being a good sport and keeping the bride happy-and this guy clearly is not a Suit Perfectionist, sounds like he doesn't wear them with any regularity, probably owns ONE if he has one at all, is having some Steve McQueen fantasy and is planning to have a bunch of mismatched men opposite coordinated bridesmaids out of some deep need to be "different." And yes there are some lousy "prom" rental tuxes out there with notch lapels, just like there are Pimp suits in crappy stores-it doesn't mean you have to wear them. A smart shopper knows where to find an above-average suit and also should be able to find above-the-grade formalwear for hire.

(Paging Dr. Phil...emergency in Philadelphia)
post #23 of 32
Why are you so invested in this? Let it go...

I think he should wear whatever makes him comfortable, within reason. Since when does the bride's opinion have more weight than that of the groom?

My husband did not wear a tuxedo, his approach was more relaxed, in an elegant way. I wore a sleek white beaded bustier long dress, I just couldn't do the princess ruffled gown. In the end, we both expressed our personalities and I think we looked good together.
post #24 of 32
PS: the only thing I regret is having let others convince me to have my hair and make up done professionally. It didn't feel like me, and I found myself, minutes before walking down the aisle, desperately attempting to fix my make up (hair was too elaborate). Live and learn.
post #25 of 32
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrDaniels
No sir, I think his marriage is going to crumble and he will potentially be a miserable father due to the fact that he is so self-centered he would wait until (as he put it) more than a year since wedding plans were announced and less than two months until the wedding to ask the opinions of total strangers as to what he should wear to the big event after ignoring the wishes and concerns of his fiancee and her female relatives that have been planning the big day.

Even some of the best-dressed men on this forum (and I in no way consider myself to be even close to being one of them in my "Mall Suits" as Lysol put it [just curious...is the Oxxford Store on 57th and 5th and Brooks Bros. on Madison where most of my suits are purchased and tailored part of a "mall?"]) may find themselves invited to participate in a wedding party and be asked to wear a rental tux that might not be up to their standards of dress, but most gentlemen would just suck it up out of a sense of being a good sport and keeping the bride happy-and this guy clearly is not a Suit Perfectionist, sounds like he doesn't wear them with any regularity, probably owns ONE if he has one at all, is having some Steve McQueen fantasy and is planning to have a bunch of mismatched men opposite coordinated bridesmaids out of some deep need to be "different." And yes there are some lousy "prom" rental tuxes out there with notch lapels, just like there are Pimp suits in crappy stores-it doesn't mean you have to wear them. A smart shopper knows where to find an above-average suit and also should be able to find above-the-grade formalwear for hire.

(Paging Dr. Phil...emergency in Philadelphia)

listen friend, i don't understand why this has upset you so. not only have you gone from starting this fight with whirlwind assumptions but you've seemed to work even more into your head as it's progressed. i assure you that i'm just peaches with everyone concerned and the irony that you have called me self-centered in a thread that you have made entirely about yourself is duly noted. my girlfriend read this entire thread over breakfast this morning and found your adolescent diatribes entirely amusing (she also muttered the word "liar" between bites of cherrios after your thrilling tales of park avenue weddings for trust fund brats, but hey that's her not me, i'm sure you have lots of great friends). if you think i am the only gentleman who has waited two months before their wedding to pick their attire and requested the opinion of a forum entitled "style forum" for suggestions and etiquette, for better or worse, you're mistaken. in fact, right here (http://styleforum.net/showthread.php?t=17096) is a link to you telling a fellow he can get a nice 3 piece suit for his wedding at jos.a bank. apparently you didn't find his "deep need to be different" so offensive.

i believe from the beginning i made it very clear that a "Suit Perfectionist" (very classy making this a proper noun, by the way) i am not. does that somehow imply that i do not dress with style and that i would not want to continue to dress with style on my wedding day and that i don't particularly find a tuxedo to be my style? i'm glad you interpretted my joke to my fiancee about dressing like steve mcqueen as a teenage fantasy to actually be steve mcqueen through his dress, dr. freud. it'll make it easier to announce that i'm also going to roll a GT through the reception hall afterwards.

"A smart shopper knows where to find an above-average suit."

well, here's you asking where to find any 3-piece suit in manhattan of all places: http://styleforum.net/showthread.php?t=15000. was your smart shopper radar not working that week?

as for buying your suits at brooks brothers "on madison," don't split hairs. there's a k-mart on west 34th. it doesn't make it any less of a k-mart. not to compare the two but please don't be naive to the fact that there are brooks brothers clothiers littered throughout malls and factory outlets across america. i'm not going to criticize their clothes or people who enjoy them, i couldn't care less, merely just stating the fact that it doesn't really give you much of a leg to stand on if you're going to criticize someone else's style of dress when the best you're bringing to the table is mass produced clothing that every tom, dick and harry has access to. i think you're trying very hard to work your way into a club that you're not entirely ready for. your "let's get him guys, he's obviously not a Suit Perfectionist" rally cry has been ignored by some of the most fashionable people on this forum who have been nothing but courteous and helpful.

again, i would just like to ask of you, as the gentleman that you clearly are, to take your medication or whatever it is that you do to calm yourself down and simply click on another thread to read.
post #26 of 32
a good time for this pic...

post #27 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lysol
listen friend, i don't understand why this has upset you so. not only have you gone from starting this fight with whirlwind assumptions but you've seemed to work even more into your head as it's progressed. i assure you that i'm just peaches with everyone concerned and the irony that you have called me self-centered in a thread that you have made entirely about yourself is duly noted. my girlfriend read this entire thread over breakfast this morning and found your adolescent diatribes entirely amusing (she also muttered the word "liar" between bites of cherrios after your thrilling tales of park avenue weddings for trust fund brats, but hey that's her not me, i'm sure you have lots of great friends). if you think i am the only gentleman who has waited two months before their wedding to pick their attire and requested the opinion of a forum entitled "style forum" for suggestions and etiquette, for better or worse, you're mistaken. in fact, right here (http://styleforum.net/showthread.php?t=17096) is a link to you telling a fellow he can get a nice 3 piece suit for his wedding at jos.a bank. apparently you didn't find his "deep need to be different" so offensive.

i believe from the beginning i made it very clear that a "Suit Perfectionist" (very classy making this a proper noun, by the way) i am not. does that somehow imply that i do not dress with style and that i would not want to continue to dress with style on my wedding day and that i don't particularly find a tuxedo to be my style? i'm glad you interpretted my joke to my fiancee about dressing like steve mcqueen as a teenage fantasy to actually be steve mcqueen through his dress, dr. freud. it'll make it easier to announce that i'm also going to roll a GT through the reception hall afterwards.

"A smart shopper knows where to find an above-average suit."

well, here's you asking where to find any 3-piece suit in manhattan of all places: http://styleforum.net/showthread.php?t=15000. was your smart shopper radar not working that week?

as for buying your suits at brooks brothers "on madison," don't split hairs. there's a k-mart on west 34th. it doesn't make it any less of a k-mart. not to compare the two but please don't be naive to the fact that there are brooks brothers clothiers littered throughout malls and factory outlets across america. i'm not going to criticize their clothes or people who enjoy them, i couldn't care less, merely just stating the fact that it doesn't really give you much of a leg to stand on if you're going to criticize someone else's style of dress when the best you're bringing to the table is mass produced clothing that every tom, dick and harry has access to. i think you're trying very hard to work your way into a club that you're not entirely ready for. your "let's get him guys, he's obviously not a Suit Perfectionist" rally cry has been ignored by some of the most fashionable people on this forum who have been nothing but courteous and helpful.

again, i would just like to ask of you, as the gentleman that you clearly are, to take your medication or whatever it is that you do to calm yourself down and simply click on another thread to read.


Gee, didn't you previously post this:

" i have no desire to have an internet argument so this will be my final reply. feel free to reply but this will be my last in your direction."

That sure lasted a long time.
post #28 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fabienne
Why are you so invested in this? Let it go...

I think he should wear whatever makes him comfortable, within reason. Since when does the bride's opinion have more weight than that of the groom?

My husband did not wear a tuxedo, his approach was more relaxed, in an elegant way. I wore a sleek white beaded bustier long dress, I just couldn't do the princess ruffled gown. In the end, we both expressed our personalities and I think we looked good together.

Since I am already in Flame War Land, let me say this:

Fabienne, this is a Men's Style board. Why are you here? There may be some men here who are interested in women's dresses, make-up and hair but I think it is a distinct minority. If you were a dyke drag king who wears men's suits or a woman who is trying to dress her husband with more aplomb I could understand; forcing us to wade through women's fashion choices here would be like a vegetarian insisting on constantly posting on a steak-lover's fansite. Do you know how annoying it is to be going through a post and then having to see what skirt you wore today; who cares? Don't you have any female friends? Can't you start a women's style board instead of hijacking a men's site.

Since I have seemed to besmirched my name here, I might as well post what I believe a lot of men here were already thinking.
post #29 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrDaniels
Since I am already in Flame War Land, let me say this:

Fabienne, this is a Men's Style board. Why are you here? There may be some men here who are interested in women's dresses, make-up and hair but I think it is a distinct minority. If you were a dyke drag king who wears men's suits or a woman who is trying to dress her husband with more aplomb I could understand; forcing us to wade through women's fashion choices here would be like a vegetarian insisting on constantly posting on a steak-lover's fansite. Do you know how annoying it is to be going through a post and then having to see what skirt you wore today; who cares? Don't you have any female friends? Can't you start a women's style board instead of hijacking a men's site.

Since I have seemed to besmirched my name here, I might as well post what I believe a lot of men here were already thinking.

Anything you say, sweetheart.
post #30 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrDaniels
Since I am already in Flame War Land, let me say this:

Fabienne, this is a Men's Style board. Why are you here? There may be some men here who are interested in women's dresses, make-up and hair but I think it is a distinct minority. If you were a dyke drag king who wears men's suits or a woman who is trying to dress her husband with more aplomb I could understand; forcing us to wade through women's fashion choices here would be like a vegetarian insisting on constantly posting on a steak-lover's fansite. Do you know how annoying it is to be going through a post and then having to see what skirt you wore today; who cares? Don't you have any female friends? Can't you start a women's style board instead of hijacking a men's site.

Since I have seemed to besmirched my name here, I might as well post what I believe a lot of men here were already thinking.


Somebody please ban this fool. His posts go from bad to worse.
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