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post #1 of 68
3/31/10 at 6:43pm
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As many of you know, I am currently working in Sacramento while my wife and kids are still in Phoenix. The job is great, but being away from my family is really getting to me. I see them about every 4-weeks, but the rest of the time just sucks. They'll be here in June and July, but I'm not sure I can make it till then.

I find myself depressed all the time and ready to cry. I can't stand living in Sacramento and all I want to do is get in my car and drive back to Phoenix.

I suppose its time to find a job back in Phoenix, but I'd really like to stay with this job for at least one year. I just hate being away from family, friends and everyone I love.

I don't really know what else to say, I just wanted to vent.
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post #2 of 68
3/31/10 at 6:58pm
I think maybe it's time to look at your priorities - as much as you want to stick with the job for at least a year, it's pretty obvious that your family means a lot to you. I think your employer would understand (hopefully).
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post #3 of 68
3/31/10 at 6:59pm
I don't think anyone can really blame you, Brad. That's got to be incredibly difficult. It's hard for me and Lish is just my gf, not my wife plus kids.
What is preventing them from moving to Sacro to be w/ you?
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post #4 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:00pm
It's not the absence of family that makes you want to cry when you're in Sac...
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post #5 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:04pm
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Originally Posted by Bradford View Post
As many of you know, I am currently working in Sacramento while my wife and kids are still in Phoenix. The job is great, but being away from my family is really getting to me. I see them about every 4-weeks, but the rest of the time just sucks. They'll be here in June and July, but I'm not sure I can make it till then.

I find myself depressed all the time and ready to cry. I can't stand living in Sacramento and all I want to do is get in my car and drive back to Phoenix.

I suppose its time to find a job back in Phoenix, but I'd really like to stay with this job for at least one year. I just hate being away from family, friends and everyone I love.

I don't really know what else to say, I just wanted to vent.

i feel for you. nice to hear that you are lovingly attached to your family. with all this news about sandra bullock and Tiger and so forth, refreshing to hear we actually got bona-fide faithful husbands and fathers such as yourself. take care. you'll make the right decision.

why not though. go take a drive to phoenix one night just for the hell of it and surprise everyone. you only live once. good luck
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post #6 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:05pm
Wow, I almost shed a tea reading that. almost.. Dude there isn't much more important in life than family, but you don't need us to tell ya that. I'm having a SHIT time at work, and sometimes it can be difficult to separate "life" from "work" as they seem to be one in the same but the only thing that mankes me happy (well, what REALLy makes me happy besides S150's, 888 last and soft shoulders) is seeing my lady smile and cheer me up. Time to fight the heat in AZ my friend. Go QUICK, your happiness depends on it. Fuck Sacto. Even the "charming" downtown is neither charming nor Down
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post #7 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:05pm
We got your back bro.
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post #8 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:08pm
February 2009:
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Originally Posted by Bradford View Post
Moving away from your family for a new job
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Originally Posted by gdl203 View Post
I could never do that
March 2010:
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Originally Posted by Bradford
I can't do this anymore

My advice: move back ASAP
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post #9 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:11pm
Stop loving people. Life is so much more enjoyable once you do that.
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post #10 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:38pm
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I find myself depressed all the time and ready to cry. I can't stand living in Sacramento and all I want to do is get in my car and drive back to Phoenix.

And what exactly is your purpose? Work? If you're only current purpose of being right now is to work you're pretty much soulless. You can't stand living there because other then income you're too lazy to find a purpose that will help you grow as a person. FIND A PURPOSE! Use the solitude (Lack of family/friend) and learn something. You can also do Self-Retrospection a lot more clearly in this kind of environment. Family is great, but the restraints of being chained to them can hurt your mind, and spirit.

If you had something else to look forward rather then just missing home you would be a happier person.
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post #11 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:48pm
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Originally Posted by Hombre Secreto View Post
...Family is great, but the restraints of being chained to them can hurt your mind, and spirit.

If you had something else to look forward rather then just missing home you would be a happier person.

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post #12 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:50pm
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And what exactly is your purpose? Work? If you're only current purpose of being right now is to work you're pretty much soulless. You can't stand living there because other then income you're too lazy to find a purpose that will help you grow as a person. FIND A PURPOSE! Use the solitude (Lack of family/friend) and learn something. You can also do Self-Retrospection a lot more clearly in this kind of environment. Family is great, but the restraints of being chained to them can hurt your mind, and spirit.

If you had something else to look forward rather then just missing home you would be a happier person.



uh..whatever. were you born yesterday? if not, maybe you can fathom, he does have a lot of things occupying his time and efforts while up there, but still , one can miss his family alot. i dont think i have to ask you to walk in his shoes before you open your mouth, and if you have been in that position before, well, not everyone is as robotic as you.
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post #13 of 68
3/31/10 at 7:59pm
I get where you are coming from. 2 months after I got married I was summoned to Lancaster PA to do a 15 mo internship for my doctorate. I spent 8 yrs in grad school so I pretty much had to go. Sucks living in the sticks though, alone, in my studio, surrounded by rednecks.

4mo and counting.

dl
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post #14 of 68
3/31/10 at 8:01pm
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And what exactly is your purpose? Work? If you're only current purpose of being right now is to work you're pretty much soulless. You can't stand living there because other then income you're too lazy to find a purpose that will help you grow as a person. FIND A PURPOSE! Use the solitude (Lack of family/friend) and learn something. You can also do Self-Retrospection a lot more clearly in this kind of environment. Family is great, but the restraints of being chained to them can hurt your mind, and spirit.

If you had something else to look forward rather then just missing home you would be a happier person.

You're an idiot but there is some sense to be extracted from your nonsense. I decided when I moved away not to get a TV or internet (no internet lasted only 3 months but I still have no TV). I've used this year to read all the books recommended to me in grad school that I never had time for and do a fair bit of thinking up here, game planning if you will for when I finally get my letters.

Got to make the best of the situation IMO

dl
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post #15 of 68
3/31/10 at 8:12pm
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You're an idiot but there is some sense to be extracted from your nonsense. I decided when I moved away not to get a TV or internet (no internet lasted only 3 months but I still have no TV). I've used this year to read all the books recommended to me in grad school that I never had time for and do a fair bit of thinking up here, game planning if you will for when I finally get my letters. Got to make the best of the situation IMO dl
You're a nitwit. You reaffirmed what I recommended him to do in the first place. Of course the free time and how it could help him is dependent on him.
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uh..whatever. were you born yesterday? if not, maybe you can fathom, he does have a lot of things occupying his time and efforts while up there, but still , one can miss his family alot. i dont think i have to ask you to walk in his shoes before you open your mouth, and if you have been in that position before, well, not everyone is as robotic as you.
I been away from my family for about a year, and it does hurt. but I occupied my mind with other things rather then just gloating about how much I missed my family and how miserable I was. Bradford, If you find offense to this (as some morons here have) that was not my intent. Juts use the free time you have wisely. Don't waste time basically. If you don't have time and are not spending all day gloating on missing your family then yes go home.
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