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post #61 of 106
I've had "socially embarrassing" hobbies since I was a kid. I play rpg's, collect miniature soldiers (and game with them) enjoy sci-fi, fantasy art, etc.
I've gone to conventions attended by thousands of fellow enthusiasts.

Here are my observations:

There are some folks that have few interests outside of their hobbies. They focus their life around their D&D character or building their Warhammer 40K army. These folks tend to be somewhat out of shape physically, and/or don't seem to pay too much attention to appearance and hygiene. Even if these folks have the potential to be physically attractive, they don't tend to be attractive because they don't work on it.

This by no means describes all of the people who participate in these hobbies, but there are enough so that the stereotype is justified and perpetuated.

There are also quite a few people who simply enjoy participating in these hobbies, but do other things as well. I would say that these folks are no more or less attractive than the average.
post #62 of 106
Ah, finally. That has been my experience as well.
post #63 of 106
My experience (in Washington, D.C.; in uniform and as a civilian Fed) is the more complicated and consuming a bureaucrat's hobby, the more he hates his job.
post #64 of 106
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Originally Posted by LabelKing
I know it can get very obsessive with a 1968 Mercedes Benz 250SE car, which was bought without an original radio and related accessories.

Of course, it had to have an original German radio, not NOS, which would have been too "new" looking but a refurbished one from the late '60s and then it had to have the appropriate amount of chrome so it was between rather expensive Beckers, Blaupunkts, Grundigs, Phillips, and Telefunkens. All the knobs had to be original too. After that, there had to be the original vintage Hirschmann red-tipped antenna installed, which was another fairly expensive addition.

There was an original vintage Becker Reims 10 shortwave radio attachment.

And when the judges at Pebble Beach took out their loupes to inspect it, did they gasp in awe?
post #65 of 106
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Originally Posted by Jim
My experience (in Washington, D.C.; in uniform and as a civilian Fed) is the more complicated and consuming a bureaucrat's hobby, the more he hates his job.
I see lots of very intricate hobbies as well.
post #66 of 106
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Originally Posted by Nantucket Red
And when the judges at Pebble Beach took out their loupes to inspect it, did they gasp in awe?
Those places are really rather stifling. They are having Lancia as the Marque for their Concorso Italiano, which is rather compelling since I'm fond of pre-Fiat Lancia. However, I am likely getting a 1969 Mercedes 280SE(W108) as a driver car.
post #67 of 106
I have lots of nerdy hobbies. Reptiles, electronic music, chemistry, painting, gardening. However, I still consider myself attractive and I'm pretty sure most girls do as well.
post #68 of 106
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Originally Posted by aybojs
But nearly every hardcore anime nut (e.g. the kind who acts out anime character routines in public, studies Japanese solely to watch anime, or produces homemade fanfiction and hentai images to share at conventions) I've seen falls into the one or more of the following categories:

-Would-be pedophile practicing displacement.
-Sexually repressed white nerd with an extremely creepy Asian fetish.
-Severely overweight/underweight anti-social shut-in.
-Adult with the mentality of a child.

I hesitate to ask, but just how many such people have you met?
post #69 of 106
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Originally Posted by LabelKing
I know it can get very obsessive with a 1968 Mercedes Benz 250SE car, which was bought without an original radio and related accessories.
LabelKing, I cannot help to wonder if you have friends in the "real world" who share a similar passion for vintage Mercedes. Very often when I read the posts on the forum they seem in a certain way devoid of greater human contact, outside of shoe salesmen and eBay sellers, and the occasional wife. This is one clear worry I have about my own social insecurities and how they could actually be reinforced by frequently posting on forums; I suppose this paranoia runs parallel to an acute self-awareness, which as the years pass has become more visible as a hindrance to my own confidence.

Kai, I appreciate you sharing your opinion about those who share your hobbies but I was wondering if you could comment directly on why you came to be involved in RPG's and how it has effected you socially.
post #70 of 106
So I take it that nobody collects jars containing pickled animal foetuses or artwork and correspondance from jailed serial killers.

How disappointing.
post #71 of 106
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Originally Posted by Tokyo Slim
So I take it that nobody collects jars containing pickled animal foetuses or artwork and correspondance from jailed serial killers.

How disappointing.

i'm posting in this thread from the safe padded confines of my cell.
post #72 of 106
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Originally Posted by Tokyo Slim
So I take it that nobody collects jars containing pickled animal foetuses or artwork and correspondance from jailed serial killers.

How disappointing.

Look on the bright side, Slim. This is your chance to lead the SF pack! You might think about taking up taxidermy too. It would go so well with the others. For added effect, you could stroke the jars of pickled aminal foetuses while mumbling "my precious!"
post #73 of 106
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Very often when I read the posts on the forum they seem in a certain way devoid of greater human contact, outside of shoe salesmen and eBay sellers,

I'm trying to figure out whether to take this a complement or not
post #74 of 106
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Originally Posted by Nantucket Red
Look on the bright side, Slim. This is your chance to lead the SF pack! You might think about taking up taxidermy too. It would go so well with the others. For added effect, you could stroke the jars of pickled aminal foetuses while mumbling "my precious!"
Oh did I forget to mention my housepet roadkill taxidermy hobby? My bad.
post #75 of 106
I think less socially acceptable people, those who are already feeling outcasted, look to other things to help them escape reality. This is why you see a lot of video games, dungeons & dragons, star trek, comic books etc in the genre that may be described as nerds and outcasts. Of course this isn't true across the board but I remember being quite a nerdy child and doing all the above plus collecting stamps and other objects. Think "The 40 year old virgin".

I think as a person when you become more self confident and more social, many of the personal hobbies drop as you find hobbies to do with other people like sports, etc.
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