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girl out of my league - worth chasing?

post #1 of 47
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So some girl's friend comes up to a bunch of us at the club last weekend and introduces her friend to me, saying that her friend really likes me. Her friend is very good looking, and soon we're getting together. We tried to talk but it was way too loud and I was a bit too smashed. She leaves with her friends right at the end of the night, but then comes back five minutes later to give me her number (I didn't even ask), and was persistant even when my phone wasn't working.

Anyway so we've been texting for a few days; even though I hate texting I get the feeling she's quite shy. She's a health professional so seems to be very busy and mentions how tired she is. (I'm just a student). I give her chances to flirt and she takes them, and she's always sending :P and and so on. I casually mentioned possibility of drinks/dinner and she texts back immediately saying yes. [I'm coming out of a six-month lull following a two year relationship and my friends don't know anything about girls.]

But now she hasn't texted for 36 hrs and then I send a dickheadish text asking what's going on (I'm only in the area for a few weeks) and she gets back saying she's busy atm.

I meet a lot of girls who are interested but my last gf (who again was better looking than me) has artificially raised my standards "” it's rare I find a girl that I like and is keen. Btw I don't think she's out of my league simpliciter - just on the basis of looks. By all accounts I'm more intelligent, ambitious, and confident than her. But I need a simple good looking girl to help get over my ex.

I can't tell if she's interested or not "” How can I make this happen?
post #2 of 47
If she went out of her way to give you her number, she is interested. Also, why would you not go after her, if you like her and she is hot?
post #3 of 47
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Originally Posted by jarrett View Post

I meet a lot of girls who are interested but my last gf (who again was better looking than me) has artificially raised my standards "” it's rare I find a girl that I like and is keen. Btw I don't think she's out of my league simpliciter - just on the basis of looks. By all accounts I'm more intelligent, ambitious, and confident than her. But I need a simple good looking girl to help get over my ex.

I can't tell if she's interested or not "” How can I make this happen?

Intelligent and ambitious maybe... but more confident? I'm not so sure about that.

However, to answer your question, I say go for it. Worse comes to worse, you can just go after one of the scores of girls that are interested in you... that is if they aren't too hideous for you to cast your gaze upon, lol.
post #4 of 47
get her drunk. Problem solved.
post #5 of 47
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lol okay i come across as an arrogant dickhead. w/e anyway so i should contact her next yeah?
post #6 of 47
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Originally Posted by Matt View Post
get her drunk. Problem solved.

sounded to me like she was already drunk.

...not that there's anything wrong with that...


OP - Unless you have major snaggletooth and a hunch-back, you're in the game. Let her figure out whether she's out of your league. Lots of women - good-looking ones, at that - focus too much on their imperfections and insecurities and they under-rate themselves.

And Thank God for this; otherwise none of us would EVER get laid, much less married.
post #7 of 47
Here's what to do:

1) Don't send "dickheadish texts"

You're welcome.
post #8 of 47
Honestly? With women you meet on the fly, it's so hard to make an accurate read. I truly think there is no harm in making a pursuit though. However, be ready for anything.

I once dated a girl, who I picked up at a bar, that was completely infatuated with me for two weeks and then all of a sudden stopped talking to me completely. Months later I found out she had gotten back with her long time boyfriend and ended things abruptly so he wouldn't know that she was throwing the pussy to another dude.

Recently she hit me up and wants to get back together/hookup, which I will NEVER do. I don't play second fiddle .


To sum it up: Go for it, but at the end of the day don't stress it if it doesn't work out. Keep doing what you do best and things will fall into place. Maybe you'll even find a new girl that is ten times better than your old girlfriend.
post #9 of 47
Thread Starter 
she's 25 (looks 20) and i'm 22... should i let it go now?
post #10 of 47
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Originally Posted by jarrett View Post
she's 25 (looks 20) and i'm 22...

should i let it go now?
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Originally Posted by Gingahbman View Post
Intelligent and ambitious maybe... but more confident? I'm not so sure about that.
+1
post #11 of 47
Thread Starter 
What is your guys' obsession with how confident I am? Incidentally, my previous comment was with regards of whether it was worth the time. I had mentioned that I was looking for something simple to get over an ex. I don't whether her age will make this complicated. I was hoping for the opposite age differential.
post #12 of 47
ask her out you fucking pussy
post #13 of 47
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I have, and she said yes. But I am fucking poor, and don't want to get into something that's going to be messy.
post #14 of 47
so get a prenup before you get married so she cant take all your poorness
post #15 of 47
dis tred is masif fayl wo picz. picz plz.
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