Originally Posted by thealbatross
Marc, while I have not been in attendance to any of the forum events, would you say that the people posting their photos for the most part represent those who attend these events? Do you in fact consider yourself attractive? I would be interested in meeting other forum members; perhaps they would have a better opinion of my facial appearance than I do, but I consider myself a realist--maybe this is part of my problem; as acute self-awareness doesn't help one's self-esteem.
First, I do not think the posting in the photos are representative of the events. There are certainly people who I have met only by photo, but not in person and vice-versa. However, I think there is a problem comparing between an array of digitial static photos and in person experiences. IMHO, attractiveness is often enhanced, or sometimes not, by the totality of the in-person experience.
Second, as to my self-perception, while I would like to think I am attractive, I realistically do not. I also know that I am not but ugly and, for my age, in very good physical shape, with a full head of hair, albeit, graying. All this, I am told, allows me to appear younger in person. Yet, ultimately, so what.
Third, were I in your shoes, I would be far less concerned with having others judge physical appearance and would more concerned with judgments as to the appearance one's choice of words and approach to communication creates. Confidence, tact, and good humor can make even those who are not physically fortunate desirable to be with, while abrasive personalities can make physically attractive individuals very lonely indeed.
Finally, the Sartorial Excellence event is a wonderful way to meet and enjoy the company of like minded persons. There willl be plenty of postings announcing the next one.