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me too. but i can understand how that would be disconcerting to his stichiness.
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This has been the behavior for me since I joined SF.
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me too. but i can understand how that would be disconcerting to his stichiness.

How do you cope? So many emails.
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Ohhhhh. It may be that e-mail notification is all-or-nothing for subscribed threads. I don't get e-mail notifications, but your question confirms my suspicion that the e-mail notifications are the enabler of your StyFo Everywhereness™.
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nah, i've had emails turned off for everything. get too many of them in real life.
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In the past I have only been subscribed to 2 active threads. This thread and LS. So I got emails only now and again. I was not subscribed to any other thread I posted in.

Now I am getting auto subscribed to every thread I post in, and emails every time one of those threads I posted in has a new post.

I need to change to site only notifications if I can't figure out how to not get auto subscribed.
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LS?
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LuxeSwap
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post

I would quit working today if I could afford it. I don't plan to keep working because I want to I plan to keep working because if that's what it takes to support my lifestyle that's what I'll do. I hope to turn into just a normal clock puncher post-65 and I have a couple of highly specialized skills, that although they pay far less than my current role, are still very good wages and can be partially filled by an hourly employee. In today's dollars I have one skill that I pay people $40 an hour to do. I figure if I work 20 hours a week that would be enough to mainly cover my lifestyle expenses and keep our nest egg intact and growing. I'm more than happy to punch a clock for 20 hours a week post-65 as that's a light schedule and will include nothing to do with responsibility. Just do my little bit of paperwork four hours a day and then go play without a care in the world.

I look at some of my siblings that went to work for the Big 3 and shudder at they're retirement. It was a race to get 85 points (age + years of service = 85 gives full retirement) and they live what are to me crappy lives that I would hate and/or shoot myself in the head. While I'm #1 in living a fiscally responsible life I also think one must smell the roses along the way. I just cannot see living very cheaply for 30 years to allow myself to live...very cheaply for another 30 years sans working. Driving old cars, dressing like crap, living in a marginal dwelling, Olive Garden = big celebrations only, vacation = renting a double wide in Florida for a few weeks. No thanks. Each to his own but I would shoot myself and hope to enjoy what I currently enjoy until the day I drop dead.

I think we're on the same page. There's no use in sitting home all day completely isolated just so I can say I'm retired. I'm hopeful I'm doing enough to prepare, but we'll see. If not, I hope to have a skill that, like yours, can be used in a lower-responsibility/hours setting.
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this
not so much this. i would not want to be a burden to my family, but i have a hard time uttering the first part of that statement.

Eh. I don't say that to be dramatic, or because it sounds like a good option. I just can't imagine burdening my kids like that. They have their own life to live, and it's not fair to put my needs on them. I'd rather just be gone than be a burden.
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So, to bring this thread back to its intended purpose, the "drafts" thing is interesting. Not a terrible idea, but it seems to create lag in the reply box, at least in some threads. Also, it messes with Chrome's "confirm navigation" box when I quote posts in my reply.
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Eh. I don't say that to be dramatic, or because it sounds like a good option. I just can't imagine burdening my kids like that. They have their own life to live, and it's not fair to put my needs on them. I'd rather just be gone than be a burden.

i understand. did not think you were being dramatic. i would never want to be a burden to my kids either, financially or otherwise. but if there ever came a time that i needed help in my old age, i would hope they would want to care for me, and that it would not be a burden for them, but something they felt honored and happy to do.

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re: the draft thing. i noticed the save draft and delete draft buttons earlier today, but now they are gone.

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Originally Posted by in stitches View Post

i understand. did not think you were being dramatic. i would never want to be a burden to my kids either, financially or otherwise. but if there ever came a time that i needed help in my old age, i would hope they would want to care for me, and that it would not be a burden for them, but something they felt honored and happy to do.

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re: the draft thing. i noticed the save draft and delete draft buttons earlier today, but now they are gone.

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I consider frequent public embarrassment during her formative years to be a sufficient burden to to impose on my kid.
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same for me too, stitchy
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There is now a checkbox on the reply section with a "get notified when others reply" option. There seems to be various options in there...perhaps you accidentally scrolled it up to email immediately (or it defaulted to it).

I have always had it auto-subscribe to threads I post in...but without notification. Notifications would suck.
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When my dad dies, my mom will move in with my wife and I. My grandmother recently moved in with my aunt and uncle; there was a bit of a scramble to see whom she moved in with as all three of her daughters wanted her (her son-in-laws as well, one of whom she's known since he was in high school). Mrs. C is excited about the prospect my mom living with us (though that's a good two decades away). I hope that when the time comes for one of us to move in with our children, they are equally excited.

 

This whole idea of aging parents as a burden is a bit weird to me. I understand where it's coming from, but I think it may largely be limited to WASP America. My mom's side of the family is Mexican (and everyone loves Mexican grandmas). My wife is Korean and so expects parents and their adult children to be heavily involved in each others' lives. Stitchy, I imagine the Jewish community in America has a similar perception of aging parents?

 

I'd also be interested in hearing acidboy's take on all this.

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There is now a checkbox on the reply section with a "get notified when others reply" option. There seems to be various options in there...perhaps you accidentally scrolled it up to email immediately (or it defaulted to it).
I have always had it auto-subscribe to threads I post in...but without notification. Notifications would suck.

boom, you are awesome. looks like that was it. thanks!

notifications are good for me on the threads i like, that often do not get a lot of posts, like this one. the notifications keeps apprised of the action.
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Stitchy, I imagine the Jewish community in America has a similar perception of aging parents?

similar to what your perception is, yes. i mean, it all depends on circumstances. sometimes a very ill aged parent is not well enough to not be in a facility of some sort, and sometimes the children do not have the means or space or ability to take care of an aged parent without it causing huge stress for everyone, and in those cases, its not really helping anyone, imo, to take in a parent. but assuming the parent is well enough, and the child can handle taking them in, more often than not the child will be honored and happy to care for their parent in the jewish community.
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