I agree with a lot of what you guys are saying, and obviously I'm open about my interest in clothing. However, it gets pretty obnoxious to have to defend myself, clothing is a hobby that lends itself to abuses.
I think you're just reluctant to lay down the nuclear option, which goes as follows:
"Look at my outfit. I'm a bomb ass motherfucker. Now look at yours. See why I spend so much?"
If you ever decide clothing is more important than friends, say something like that.
why would you be ashamed of your interest in clothes? just don't be a dick about it (I'm wearing a shirt that costs $300!) and recognize that, on a fundamental level, it's meaningless.
I myself also try to conceal my fervent interest in clothing. Sadly, i do feel its demasculating to show a huge interest in such superficial ventures, and the point of swagger is to seem like you don't care what you're wearing, or that it was natural without much thought.
and I still feel dropping $735 on a jacket is exorbitant, and I rather keep it to myslef