I'm not being disingenous. I said your aggression towards others was uncalled for, and certainly not conducive to a good conversation. You say you're just arguing for your tastes. Fine. You say, Hey, it's the rape-y connotation, not the actual behavior of the wearer -- Then, I dunno: American college students are a rape-y bunch, so it is almost a 1:1 correlation Unless I'm missing something due to hastiness, language gap, or fever. But yeah -- it seems a little nutty. Whatevs, though. I'm not demanding further explanation. Just saying you could find a better way to express your views. EDIT: lol @ La Haine!
I know the chain is tacky. It is a tacky item... I wear [it] simply because I like it and I want to wear it. When I put that chain on I don't think, "oh this is great, it's so loud and tacky and people will stare at me." I think that it's cool and that I would like to wear it. Sometimes it is really just that simple.
This is another thing, I often think you stay in your comfort zone (idiosyncratic comfort zone but no less a comfort zone for that) and just say things like this as some sort of defense mechanism. No one can really criticize you for being tacky, gaudy, over the top or tasteless or other things that have been hurled in your direction for fits over time because "yeah I know it is, that's why I like it". Ie, there's a certain confidence to be gained from knowing that, no matter what you put on, how you dress is so far out of step with any recognizable aesthetic that no one has a frame of reference to be able to say you're doing it right or wrong. In light of which I have this occasional, cynical suspicion that you're unwilling to try other stuff not because you don't want to but because it's actually possible to do them badly. But this time I actually am making assumptions and attributing things to you that may be false, it's just how responses like this come off to me.
Originally Posted by Uncontrol
And yes, I could go in directions that would please you and others here more than the directions I take. Maybe, incidentally, that will some day happen. If it does happen, however, it will not be because I seek the approval of anyone here; it will be because I decided on my own to move in that direction.
I am not really trying to convince you to do anything because time has shown that to be pretty much futile, I just think you could probably be doing more and I imagine it would be rewarding, not just for people like me who like to see interesting fits in here but probably for you too.