What to do with old pictures of an ex

So what do you do with them?

Here's one for you, what if they have passed away?

i keep them all. She was part of my past, I have nothing in past that I am particularly ashamed of, and if girls in my future object to that, then I shrug.

Lots of pics of me and my last two gfs tagged on Facebook, I'm not untagging me on them (altho I do have a pissed off ex who untagged herself and deleted me in the morning, but that's a different story), on the whole though, who cares?

Admittedly I've never had a dead ex, grief is a different thing though....

I have a pretty nice photo of me and all four of the RubeBabes when they were kids. My ex- was in the picture, too. I had her photoshopped out. As to an ex- who's assumed an ethereal state? More difficult. Were you an item when she — ahem — passed? Or was she an ex- when she expired? And how was the parting? I mean you and her, not her departure. (Oh ****, this has gotten confusing...)

I found that the new girls dont like you having stuff around of the old girls, even if it was amicable, they dont care. I have tried unsucessfully to make this work several times.


This particular case, I was cleaning out a drawer, found an old wallet from HS with pictures of the ex in it. Her and I dated when I was in HS for about 3 years. We broke up on good terms, stayed really close, and continued to be friends untill she passed away about 3-1/2 years ago. Believe it or not, I still have several items of hers (HS was 11 years ago), a jacket and shirt that I still wear all the time. I dont want to get rid of that stuff because its sentimental and functional, but what do I do with these pictures. In a way I feel like getting rid of them would be disrespectful, but at the time I cant really justify carrying them around for the rest of my life either....

Originally Posted by jgold47

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This particular case, I was cleaning out a drawer, found an old wallet from HS with pictures of the ex in it. Her and I dated when I was in HS for about 3 years. We broke up on good terms, stayed really close, and continued to be friends untill she passed away about 3-1/2 years ago. Believe it or not, I still have several items of hers (HS was 11 years ago), a jacket and shirt that I still wear all the time. I dont want to get rid of that stuff because its sentimental and functional, but what do I do with these pictures. In a way I feel like getting rid of them would be disrespectful, but at the time I cant really justify carrying them around for the rest of my life either....

I would probably keep them - she was a big part of your life for 3 years, and then time after that as well.

Sad story, though.

Yeah. You gotta keep that stuff. Any woman who doesn't understand that has a hole in her heart.

Originally Posted by jgold47

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I dont want to get rid of that stuff because its sentimental and functional, but what do I do with these pictures. In a way I feel like getting rid of them would be disrespectful, but at the time I cant really justify carrying them around for the rest of my life either....
well then it sounds more like the issue is with you than it is with other girls....

Originally Posted by Dakota rube

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Yeah. You gotta keep that stuff. Any woman who doesn't understand that has a hole in her heart.

Well, yes, but the jacket and shirt are easy, I dont have to look the GF and say, oh these from xxxx. the only time it might come up is if she tries to get me to donate them away and I am not ready to. and its not like she is going to find the pictures either, I am just not sure what I should be doing with them.

option a - keep em in a box.
option b - scan em, keep em on a site.

not that hard is it?

Scan. Truecrypt archive. Managed backup. Done.

if you dont want them maybe give it to her family? may be a stupid idea...i dunno.

Keep the photos. They will cheer you as you age and serve as a document of those you knew.

The clothes are more difficult for me and, I imagine, future women in your life. It seems a bit odd that you might still want to wear her shirt. I don't see any conversation about this going well with another woman. However, I think it would be a nice touch to have the shirt made into a pocket square or something else useful. Almost as if you were bringing a small part of her into your future.

I broke up with a girl I dated for three years, she was a controling ***** and a psycho so I threw away every picture and sentimental item she ever gave me. Unfortunately this also meant my Prom pictures also went in the trash. She tried to kill herself after I broke up with her (several times over a year, got really close once). We had an apartment and other stuff together so it was a real mess when I left her, but I have no real regrets throwing away most everything she gave me. So long as it wasnt useful (ex Xbox, Nintendo DS, shirts).

Get rid of them. Looking back they will only cause pain. Especially after a night of drinking the last thing I want to be reminded of is how much I failure I was in a relationship.

I have a cedar chest where I store keepsakes like this. I suggest investing in one. I store old collectables, newspapers with important headlines, childhood keepsakes, etc. It is a good solution.