Have you been caught red by your partner buying expensive items without telling her? - Page 2

where do you people find these minimalist women

Mine just told me to "slow down," and has been dropping hints lately.
i feel the hammer coming down.

Whenever I buy something new, I hide it in the back of the closet for a few months. Then when I wear it and my wife says, "Oh, is that new?" I can reply, "I've had it for a while."

I think she's on to me, though. The other day she responded with, "Yes, but have you worn it before?"

I'm aiming to be a kept man.... She's more into style than I am.

This. When I'm directly asked about price I successfully manage to dodge the question with witty replies that imply I'll never divulge. I did leave a receipt laying around for a recent bespoke shirt order, and the girlfriend was shocked. I've been trying to get her to have some shirts made too...maybe one day.

I can't remember the last time I spent so much on clothing that I felt compelled to hide the receipt or the clothes. The last major purchase I made was at the Lewin store in London, but as she had just splurged on watches 20 minutes prior, I didn't feel the need to hold back. I did demur on a few things she had selected, though - were it up to her, she would have spent more than I did!

And - btw - how is it that you folks get asked about prices? I've never heard that question, not once from anyone. Ever.

Bought a painting we were looking at on ebay. She found it hidden in the closet before Christmas. On Christmas morning after receiving her new roller skates, she asks me, "Honey was there another gift for me... a painting perhaps?" I love that painting, but I did initially buy it for her, so it is hers now.

Our friends and family are small-timers.

I have a budget and stick to it. This is difficult but we have a joint account so it is what it is. I remind myself that it's a marathon and not a sprint. I have items shipped to the house so that I don't have to conceal. I also buy her something from time to time that she would never buy for herself so that she can see for herself that a $200 garment is better than three or four items from Jcrew.

Since my wife takes care of balancing the books (she's obsessive about it and I gave up trying to do it myself years ago), she usually notices it before I get a chance to tell her. The only time she got upset was when I went on a bit of a spree @ the Williamsburg, VA outlet stores this past December. I got carried away, but I did manage to tell her before she found out, so I diffused a potential volatile conversation. She likes the fact that I'm starting to care again about how I look, but is not used to my ever growing-expensive tastes. She usually calms down when I point out that I buy one thing that costs x while she buys three things that cost x/2, so I'm really the frugal one

My mother is the only one who asks - I think she gets a kick out of it. She's the one who always encouraged me to dress well even at a young age, so I blame her.

You're screwed. That's it. Secret account ;-)

I don't hide stuff from MrsG, and it's surprising to me that so many people do (I don't mean to be all sanctimonious, I'm just surprised). She knows I like nice clothes, and she knows I spend a fair amount of money on them. Clothes are my hobby, and she's OK with it.

Also, I control the household finances, so she has faith that anything I buy is within our means.


This is exceedingly rare for me as well. It's happened once or twice with certain items, and with particularly uncouth people, but it's not very common at all.

Original vinyl
Shoes
Watches

But, she is very supportive if it's not too crazy. In fact, she's never said no. I'm a lucky guy. She also knows the 'guy's division ratio'. Divide all dollar values by 4.

My wife and I have only joint accounts, so there would be no point in trying to hide something from her even if I wanted to. Like all of our finances, my clothing purchases are built into the budget.