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post #136 of 176
As I see it, I have two choices:
-Go upstairs to her office, sit down, tell her I enjoyed her company but I think it's best if we just remain friends (that sounds ridiculous);
-Answer her email with something like "yeah I met up with my friends and went out for a while, it was a good night."
post #137 of 176
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Originally Posted by unjung View Post
She's about six years older than me... I'm just not interested.

i think the problem is, not her age, but maybe she is not that attractive?
post #138 of 176
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Originally Posted by sho'nuff View Post
i think the problem is, not her age, but maybe she is not that attractive?

Fair point. Once the clothes came off I was
post #139 of 176
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Fair point. Once the clothes came off I was


i would think in most cases youre fine. not eveyrone at the workplace are too sensitive. just mutually passed as a fun memory. she's most likely cool
post #140 of 176
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Originally Posted by sho'nuff View Post

i would think in most cases youre fine. not eveyrone at the workplace are too sensitive. just mutually passed as a fun memory. she's most likely cool

You know what, you're probably right. This email is a way for her to say "hey, we're cool", so I bet I just need to respond nicely and I'll be fine.
post #141 of 176
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You know what, you're probably right. This email is a way for her to say "hey, we're cool", so I bet I just need to respond nicely and I'll be fine.

Yes.
By next week, I'm sure you'll be finding various pieces of her lingerie in your desk. August will reveal that she's moved a few selected outfits into your closet and some toiletries into your medicine chest.

You don't have a pet bunny, do you?
post #142 of 176
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Originally Posted by unjung View Post
As I see it, I have two choices:
-Go upstairs to her office, sit down, tell her I enjoyed her company but I think it's best if we just remain friends (that sounds ridiculous);
-Answer her email with something like "yeah I met up with my friends and went out for a while, it was a good night."

Answer B is the correct choice.

Answer A will tick her off, no matter what the situation is. "Booty Calls" - are quite common these days. Maybe she's up for that. You don't know if she wants a relationship. Sounds like you just got drunk and hooked up... that does not = relationship from either of your perspectives.
post #143 of 176
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Originally Posted by oman View Post
man just learn to compartmentalize the various aspects of your life

when around her in public, act like a colleague, and DONT EXPECT ANY SPECIAL TREATMENT. if you do, youre playing it wrong.

if she goes out of her way to be with you alone again, or makes some kind of move, then let the cards fall where they may (i.e. fuck her again). but each time youre back at work, just be cool.

either she will end it herself, or she will be fine with this, which means youve found yourself a girl on the side. either way if you take no further steps, it will end eventually, which seems to be what you want. dont overthink things

Good advice in my books
post #144 of 176
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What do I tell her? What if she is actually interested in more? I was extremely intoxicated and don't have more than a summary of the afternoon/evening in my mind.

Tell her the truth: that you were extremely intoxicated and don't have more than a summary of the afternoon/evening in your mind...
post #145 of 176
Tell her you plan to set up a poal on SF to correctly answer that and you will get back to her in a bit.
post #146 of 176
Day #2 of acting like nothing happened, successful so far. However, she did send me an email late last night commenting on how she wasn't looking forward to a particular meeting today, which is something she wouldn't have sent in the past...
post #147 of 176
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Originally Posted by unjung View Post
Day #2 of acting like nothing happened, successful so far. However, she did send me an email late last night commenting on how she wasn't looking forward to a particular meeting today, which is something she wouldn't have sent in the past...

Dude- she just fucked a guy whom she had no real preexisting relationship. She's probably either a) creating some semblance of one to justify her decision, or b) slightly more aware of your existence and treating you as such.

Keep everything friendly and platonic and you'll be fine.
post #148 of 176
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Day #2 of acting like nothing happened, successful so far. However, she did send me an email late last night commenting on how she wasn't looking forward to a particular meeting today, which is something she wouldn't have sent in the past...

Hah! She is going into "we are close now that we had sex" mode and will probably start thinking of you as something of a relationship, even if she won't admit it. You is fuxxored!!!!!!
post #149 of 176
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Originally Posted by MetroStyles View Post
Hah! She is going into "we are close now that we had sex" mode and will probably start thinking of you as something of a relationship, even if she won't admit it. You is fuxxored!!!!!!

+1 - hope you've cleared off a shelf in your medicine cabinet and emptied your closet.
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