Domestic violence ...help?

Beware: long. I could really use some outside perspective here, though.

A girl I dated for about a month (who I had been friends with in the past for several years) has recently stopped talking to me, and I think it is because she has gone back to her abusive ex-boyfriend. They dated for a year, and during that time he regularly pushed and hit her (sometimes in the face) and he was very controlling about where she could go, etc. When she and I were dating, he would call her obsessively and follow us around in his car -- crazy shit. Anyways, the last time we were hanging out, we were at a bar and she got really drunk and began talking to a friend -- right in front of me -- about how she is still in love with him and how "he has changed" and all that shit abusive assholes spew.

That was about a month ago. For two weeks afterwards, she began to distance herself from me, and for the past two weeks I have texted her a couple times and called her once and gotten no reply. Normally, that's when you throw in the towel. But what should I do about the violence thing? I dont really want a relationship with her -- at least not until she regroups -- but I do care about her and I do want to help her. I doubt that I will be able to get face-to-face time with her, since she is obviously trying to blow me off, so I'm thinking about texting her that I am going to put something in her mailbox, and then dropping off some domestic violence pamphlets & resources. I dont think I can 'just forget about it and move on.'

Thoughts/suggestions?

Normally I would agree with you, but it's the fact that we had been friends for years prior that is making it difficult to 'forget it.' I was also the first guy she had told about the abuse, so I feel a sense of obligation about it. I know enough about domestic violence to know that he could be threatening her into not talking to me ..I dont know... the whole thing is making me feel like a loon, but I really think I should do something. I just want to know how to make it seem like I legitimately care about her safety, and not like I'm just trying to get in her pants.

Well that's the thing... it looks like she tried to leave and was unsuccessful. He was able to reel her back in, likely through manipulation and possibly through threats. She told me on several occasions that she didnt want to be with him anymore. Then all of a sudden she seems to be back with him. So i'd say she does need help leaving.

Damn, you're right. I hadn't thought of that. Maybe I should hold off and see if she contacts me. I mean, we have known each other for much of our lives and a little over a month ago she said she had already been telling her parents about me and that she wanted me to spend Christmas with her family (that didnt happen). Can she really go from that to stonewalling me forever?