I tend to agree with Dragon, and Hitman009 that the only thing that we can control in these situations is ourselves. While we direct our forgiveness at the actions of others. the real benefit is what we feel inside ourselves. In my case, I began to realise that reliving those feelings of being hurt or cheated by past wrongs just caused me to re-live the pain and stress that I felt at the time. To make matters worse, the entire experience was internal, and while I might be seething with rage at the memory of a past wrong, the person that I blamed for it could be completely oblivious.
I'm reminded of the saying "you drink the poison, and expect the other person to die".
In terms of forgiving but not forgetting, I agree with this too. My job involves managing failure investgations for an R&D company. It's very important in our line of work to cultivate a blameless culture, to ensure that failures and errors are reported, and not covered up, even if the incident has significant costs attached. At the same time though, the other part of my job is making sure that records are kept to document our failures in detail, to make sure that we don't repeat our mistakes.
If time is money, then the ability to say "let's not do that again" can be worth millions.
I'm reminded of the saying "you drink the poison, and expect the other person to die".
In terms of forgiving but not forgetting, I agree with this too. My job involves managing failure investgations for an R&D company. It's very important in our line of work to cultivate a blameless culture, to ensure that failures and errors are reported, and not covered up, even if the incident has significant costs attached. At the same time though, the other part of my job is making sure that records are kept to document our failures in detail, to make sure that we don't repeat our mistakes.
If time is money, then the ability to say "let's not do that again" can be worth millions.
