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I need sexual healing. For real.

post #1 of 47
Thread Starter 
Yeah, not Marvin Gaye style, unfortunately. Not exactly.

So I have a girlfriend of two and a half years or so. Things are great everywhere except in the bedroom.

I take 40 mgs of Citalopram, an antidepressant, every day. I am chronically clinically depressed to the point that after skipping a couple of days I basically can't function. Unfortunate side effect: when I do take it every day, my dick can't function.

Oh, it gets itself excited enough to be useful, but sex doesn't really feel good. It kind of feels like my dick isn't attached to my body. It takes me forever to finish, sometimes (often) I can't. I can still j/o though, which really doesn't help the situation when she finds out, as you can probably imagine.

I tried splitting the pill in half and spreading the dose around over the course of the day, but it hasn't made a difference.

My basic plan is to talk to my doctor about medication alternatives, but I don't have much hope that a different med will do the trick. I've been on some kind of SSRI like this for almost a decade and they've all had a similar effect. It's a catch 22- take the pill, can't fuck, don't take the pill, can't function.

Anybody else been in a similar situation?
post #2 of 47
viagra?
post #3 of 47
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Originally Posted by Teger View Post
viagra?

he says he can get the junk up, but he just does not feel any sexual excitement during intercourse.



Maybe you should try a different antidepressant, but I'm pretty sure all SSRI/SNRIs can result in some sort of sexual dysfunction while on the medication. The effects may not be as pronounced or you may not have any side effects on a different drug, so you should talk to your doctor first and decide what to do from there.
post #4 of 47
I'd try talking to your doctor and telling him you need an antidepressant that still allows you to bust a nut in a vag.
post #5 of 47
Thread Starter 
I've taken Viagra in the past, for fun. It turns me into a human dildo, just with a stuffy nose and little sense of enjoyment about the task at hand. The girl I was with didn't seem too concerned about those last two things, though. Selfish bitch.

It bothers me that I can still jerk it to some porn no problem. I wonder if our sex life has hit a stalemate after this long? I still think she's sexy, though, I don't get it. It has definitely gotten worse over the last year or so. Blah.
post #6 of 47
that sucks. only a trusted medical professional can help you there, pal.
post #7 of 47
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Originally Posted by acidicboy View Post
that sucks. only a trusted medical professional can help you there, pal.

Huh?

Internet strangers > trusted medical professionals...didn't you know?




Thanks for the sympathy though. It does suck.
post #8 of 47
That's the really confusing thing---getting off to your own hand but not with a woman. Maybe you need a new woman. Or a man. You never know. I hear Acidicboy is up for anything, if you look like DarkNWorn. Otherwise you could try hitting up the Montreal Gym Shower circuit and find GQGeek.
post #9 of 47
Depressed penis.
post #10 of 47
Wellbutrin - no limp dick with that one. Not very expensive either, as long as you take the non-time released version.
post #11 of 47
sounds like me on adderall or too much coke. The answer: make a choice Actually that is applicable to just about every aspect of life.
post #12 of 47
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Originally Posted by buddha123 View Post
sounds like me on adderall or too much coke.

The answer: make a choice

Actually that is applicable to just about every aspect of life.

I take adderall too. It actually helps me get off, if that gives you a reference for how bad it gets with the antidepressants.
post #13 of 47
That being said, if you don't jack off at all it can't hurt the situation. I remember right when I lost my virginity and then started having sex with my girlfriend, I could almost never bust from sex, she'd always have to go down on me to finish. But we weren't having consistent enough sex (it was more like once a week) for me to not jerk off once in a while. Stopped jerking off and within a week I was golden.
post #14 of 47
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Originally Posted by bye4now122 View Post
That being said, if you don't jack off at all it can't hurt the situation.

I remember right when I lost my virginity and then started having sex with my girlfriend, I could almost never bust from sex, she'd always have to go down on me to finish. But we weren't having consistent enough sex (it was more like once a week) for me to not jerk off once in a while. Stopped jerking off and within a week I was golden.

Bingo. I am officially trying this. IDK if I will be able to not jerk off, it's been an every other day thing since I was 12, but I'm giving it a shot. Thanks.
post #15 of 47
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Originally Posted by mehhhh View Post
It bothers me that I can still jerk it to some porn no problem. I wonder if our sex life has hit a stalemate after this long? I still think she's sexy, though, I don't get it. It has definitely gotten worse over the last year or so. Blah.
If you can still jerk it to porn (I'm assuming to completion) than the problem would seem to be mental/the partner rather than the medications making it impossible to have satisfactory sex. I would seriously talk to a mental health professional (psychologist/therapist) about what ever issues you have going on. Also try Lexapro, I've taken it and and plenty of"juice" left over for the missus.
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