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Originally Posted by APK View Post

And I didn't even mention that the first year of our relationship was complicated by the father of her children, who was kind of a fuck up and bipolar. She still thought incredibly highly of him after she ended things, but he never really got over it, and meddled in our situation often. Then he had a near-suicide attempt about 8 months into our relationship, followed by him actually sealing the deal one year later to do the day, which was only a few weeks after she and I moved in together.

Basically, after that, I always thought almost anyone would stand a better chance, since I was always going to be linked to this guy in a way, and while his mental issues got him to the point of suicide, it was our living together that was pretty much it for him. I wasn't the best partner in terms of comfort for long after it happened, and she resented me for a long time because of it. Part of her probably still does.

Anyway, I agree the might make a better match in that she has a tendency to be emotionally unavailable, which means that she wants a partner, but not necessarily for all the aspects that you expect to get from a romantic partner. I'm pretty sure she's done having kids, which I think wouldn't work for me, since having a hand in raising her two kids the last three years made me realize I actually want kids of my own, too. We're both 30, and her youngest is four, so I think starting the whole process again that appealing. So, very few things point to us ever having a real future where we were both satisfied, which will definitely will help me as time goes on in knowing that this is the tough thing to do right now, but also the right thing.


Represent


apparently im not bipolar anymore fucking psychiatrists keep moving my diagnosis to like everything else.
post #51842 of 57262
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fuji just needs an older brother figure to beat that ass when he misbehaves inlove.gif
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Thanks, guys. Definitely hurting right now, but I know a lot of it is just bruised ego. I did leave, after all, and had often thought about it before then, so it's not like I just got antsy in a satisfying relationship. I've gotta get a couple more things from the house later today, give back the key/garage opener, and then go invisible for a while. Thought I'd be OK with something like this, but it's consuming most of my days, so it's best to just do a clean break and focus on my own stuff.

I'm turning 30 tomorrow, which has made this sting a bit more, since she was always really good with birthday stuff. Still, I should be looking at this landmark birthday as something genuinely notable. A fresh start in a lot of ways.
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barrelntrigger talk to me..... whats the full setup and whats the routine

Im about 2 weeks from finding out if we get this house... gonna piece my shit together bit by bit, no rush.
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I don't know you APK but you seems like a good guy. Stay positive bruh icon_gu_b_slayer[1].gif
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Yeah, just get those anger issues sorted out a bit bruh. Those flare up pretty quickly with the added stress of kids and the strains that can put on an existing relationship.

post #51847 of 57262
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Originally Posted by pocketsquareguy View Post

Considering joining a local spin cycle club. I have a regular gym where I do elliptical machine and weight training. But thinking this brand new facility with young, new (and cute) trainers will add a fresh new twist to my workouts. I ride bikes on trails. Not sure how I will adjust to spin classes but will give it a go.I will probably be the oldest guy in the class.

Anyone here do spin classes? Any advice for a novice?

Back when I lived in Tennessee the YMCA I went to had spin classes which I really enjoyed. It seemed to be kind of instructor specific, some instructors were motivating, some were annoying. Also, you might really enjoy the social aspect of group exercise. Since December I've been going to a gym that does group strength and conditioning and I've never been as dedicated or happy with working out - and it's because of the group/social aspect.
post #51848 of 57262
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barrelntrigger talk to me..... whats the full setup and whats the routine

Im about 2 weeks from finding out if we get this house... gonna piece my shit together bit by bit, no rush.


Hmmm, just thinking about making a deadlift platform with 2 pieces of 4x6 plywood and putting those horse stall mats on top. Been thinking about putting the lat pull down pulleys on the cage. After all that, the setup would be complete. I'm starting 5/3/1 routine just on my deadlift. I think the bench and squat lacks volume just once a week. But the program is suppose to put 100 lbs on the dl in a year for an intermediate lifter. I've been benching twice a week and I'm making gains slowly. Just benched 285 double last night. Good luck on the house, mate! We looked at over 100 houses within 2 years and put in a bunch of offers before getting our current one. Keep us updated. 

post #51849 of 57262
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Originally Posted by ridethecliche View Post

Yeah, just get those anger issues sorted out a bit bruh. Those flare up pretty quickly with the added stress of kids and the strains that can put on an existing relationship.

They were definitely the source of a lot of problems in the relationship. I was always sort of on edge even when I had relatively few responsibilities. So while I really cared for the kids, I would get tested a lot, especially with the one, who has/had some really bratty tendencies. My anger for the most part has never really been violent, but I would imagine that I'm not much fun to hang around. It's a side that only a few people have seen of me, mostly friends and exes.

But like I said, something just clicked a few weeks ago when I had this realization how bad it was. I've still gotten annoyed about some things, but I don't think I've really been MAD since then. Can't dwell on the mistakes made in the past, but I do feel shitty that I coupled my good behavior with some real selfishness and pettiness. Still, I'll be a better person for this going forward, since this is really the first time in my life that I feel mostly in control of these negative emotions.

I was planning on dropping off the things I mentioned in the last post later when she was home, but decided to just do it earlier while she was still at work. Left a letter reiterating some things, but made it clear that I'll be going off her radar for a while, if for nothing else than to let her explore a potential relationship with the guy.
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Yeah, it's certainly a hard thing to work on, but it's weird how people like being around you more when you're not raging all the time. 

post #51851 of 57262
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Originally Posted by ridethecliche View Post
 

Yeah, it's certainly a hard thing to work on, but it's weird how people like being around you more when you're not raging all the time. 


Yeah, I used to be pretty bad, too. I mellowed out a lot after I turned 30. Hitting the heavy bag really really really helped. Lifting helped a lot, too. 

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All the best, APK. Sounds like you're on the right track. fing02[1].gif
post #51853 of 57262
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Originally Posted by barrelntrigger View Post

Hmmm, just thinking about making a deadlift platform with 2 pieces of 4x6 plywood and putting those horse stall mats on top. Been thinking about putting the lat pull down pulleys on the cage. After all that, the setup would be complete. I'm starting 5/3/1 routine just on my deadlift. I think the bench and squat lacks volume just once a week. But the program is suppose to put 100 lbs on the dl in a year for an intermediate lifter. I've been benching twice a week and I'm making gains slowly. Just benched 285 double last night. Good luck on the house, mate! We looked at over 100 houses within 2 years and put in a bunch of offers before getting our current one. Keep us updated. 

FFFFFFFF 100 houses? How many ones did you go into contract on? We have looked at maybe 6-7 houses and have been in contract twice. We did offer what they were asking for this house though.

Once shit is all together I will probably make a YT video.
post #51854 of 57262
Wasn't gonna post until I hit my goals but assumed everyone would want to see my shirtless body. Am I thick/solid/tight yet? Or just a fat fuck?
Warning: Spoiler! (Click to show)

Also, iPhone cameras suck ass.

Hit 3x4x240 bench today. Solid progress, so close to weighting up again. Feeling so good about this bulk even though that photo doesn't show me much larger than I was before.
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