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post #91 of 110
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post #92 of 110
Mine is a girl, and most of my friends dont seem to understand this...its pretty annoying. She is the only person that is not family that has been there for the past 6 years and that I can be open about everything with.
post #93 of 110
She was until she had sex with me.
post #94 of 110
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She was until she had sex with me.

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so its her fault???
post #95 of 110
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so its her fault???

I think he's pointing out that sex changes the nature of a relationship.

I have both a guy and a girl as my two closest friends. The girl and I have fooled around on several occasions, and I still regularly get a face full of beast when we're drinking, but she's more of a guy than any guy I know, so it doesn't get in the way. I don't think that I could be best friends with a chick without some sort of sexual tension there.
post #96 of 110
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She was until she had sex with me.

That is a rather passive and borderline emasculating way of putting it. "She had sex with me" implies it was not only her fault but that you were powerless to stop it; as if she was the one showing you the ropes. Not to get too deep here but it's very interesting phrasing.
post #97 of 110
Phrasing is accurate. Sitting on my sofa watching a film, nothing unusual at all, knew the girl for about 3 years. Suddenly she starts licking the side of my face, I turn around she starts kissing me and then unbuttons my jeans at starts giving me head, she was very aggressive the whole time and I wasn't really that into it so your pretty much spot on with your analysis. It was also one of the first few times I had sex and she was much more experienced so I suppose she was kind of showing me the ropes. I really doubt I could have said no once it started, girl was crazy in bed and not really in a good way she clawed and bit the fuck out of me so much that my back and chest were all torn up and I couldn't bench the next day because my chest was all cut up.
post #98 of 110
Best friend is a girl. I've known her for 13 years now. She's the only friend that I've really kept in touch and see on a regular basis. I always ask if it's a problem when i start seeing someone. They all say no, but sometimes it becomes a problem anyway, which is stupid, because the girl has been married and divorced and is on her way to her second marriage and as others have said, if something was gonna happen, it would have by now. I'd never do anything to fuck up my one really good friendship and that includes being involved with someone that tried to put up divisions between us. I've made an effort to get to know her bf/soon-to-be-fiance too. I don't want him having any reservations about her having dinner or spending time alone with me etc.
post #99 of 110
Not best friends, but I'm really good friends with two ex-girlfriends from yesteryear. I haven't slept with either of them since our relationships ended, so while I will admit both are still quite attractive, no lingering sexual tension is there on my part. Some new girls I date find my friendship with them troubling but it's unrealistic of them to expect me to drop a friendship I've had for a decade in one case for a girl I've known for only a handful of months at most.
post #100 of 110
I think I am starting to develop feelings for mine, either they are true and I have to lower my aesthetic expectations orrrrr they are a result of the lack of women currently in my life.
post #101 of 110
My mother is my best friend.
post #102 of 110
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My mother is my best friend.

Have you read Confederacy of Dunces?
post #103 of 110
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I think I am starting to develop feelings for mine, either they are true and I have to lower my aesthetic expectations orrrrr they are a result of the lack of women currently in my life.

I've had those thoughts in the past, but ultimately put them out of my mind. People that work as friends wouldn't necessarily work as more than that. If you can rationalize why you wouldn't work as a couple, you'll be better off. Ulitimately, do you want a lifelong friend or someone to hook up with and never talk to again after it goes sour, because that is the likely result (how many women do most people date before they marry?)

I joke about having dumped a girl for not liking mushrooms, but if i had to cook/eat with someone on a nightly basis and our tastes differed widely or she refused to try anything i cooked, it would be a problem. In my case there would be a culture clash too... I hate doing family shit all the time, and she's indian, so that stuff is incessant. it would drive me nuts. I'm one of those guys that doesn't even want to see extended family on holidays (feels like such a waste of time that should be enjoyable and stress free).
post #104 of 110
i tried the best buddy deal with this one chick, but after a few months/ half a year i found out she

1. really didn't want to hear about my personal life dealing with the opposite sex. she'd start huffing and pouting and sticking her lick out
2. really didn't want me knowing about her personal life and the dates she went on
3. would huff and pout when i didn't spend enough time with her or od things with her

then i realized. lol this is like a GF without the sex. it really was. we fought just like a couple over the silliest of shit just like a couple, is aid you know, this really isn't worth it.
post #105 of 110
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Originally Posted by christinedaae View Post

i tried the best buddy deal with this one chick, but after a few months/ half a year i found out she

1. really didn't want to hear about my personal life dealing with the opposite sex. she'd start huffing and pouting and sticking her lick out
2. really didn't want me knowing about her personal life and the dates she went on
3. would huff and pout when i didn't spend enough time with her or od things with her

then i realized. lol this is like a GF without the sex. it really was. we fought just like a couple over the silliest of shit just like a couple, is aid you know, this really isn't worth it.

I've had a lot of female friends over the years and most have gone nowhere (don't speak to them anymore). In general, the guys that say women don't make good friends are right. women want to talk your ear off about their probs but dont want to listen to yours.

My friend listens to all my bitching about women, dating, and all the rest and never complains. She's a good sport about all the jokes i make about the english colonizing india too. laugh.gif
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