Originally Posted by Crane's
To tell you the truth I'm not sure what this thread is really about. First off if you're married or engaged then that woman/man should be your best friend among other things. After that is your social circle of friends which is another thing altogether. I find it odd when someone wants to take a member from this group and somehow value them as much as a spouse/SO. It's even more strange when that person is of the opposite sex. My first thoughts when I see this kind of thing is what's the problem or WTF is really going on here.
Regardless if you're married or whatnot, it isn't weird. You can be good friends with someone without any sexual interest, I'm good friends with some girls who I don't consider attractive, and friends with some lesbians. It's not that I'm better friends with them than my girlfriend, we just have a different dynamic. Just because your favourite food is steak, doesn't mean you don't want pancakes for breakfast. Also in my case, I've known my girlfriend for around a year, but the majority of my close female friends I've known for closer to 3 years, and one or two of them over ten. Also, you need female friends to talk about your girl problems because talking about them to dudes is worthless. Girls will actually care about your problems and try to give you insight, where guys will just be like "suck it up" "dump that bitch" "plenty of fish in the sea" "get drunk and you won't care." Useless shit like that. My girlfriend and I have no worries or jealousy about the other whatsoever. I've slept over at other girls' houses before, she knows that, and she doesn't care. She knows I wasn't cheating. Because we have this nice healthy relationship where we know that we'd just go ahead break up if we were interested in other people. It's gotta suck balls to have a jealous girlfriend, I'd dump her immediately, nothing is worse than someone trying to judge you when you're not even doing anything wrong.