I'm so very sorry for your loss, Bob. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Even though it may be difficult, please do what you can to take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. We often neglect this, but it's very important.
Originally Posted by rdawson808
When I would visit he would ask me if I wanted to go hit a bucket of balls at the driving range. I always said no thanks. I really regret that now.
Originally Posted by HORNS
It's unfair to yourself and to your father's expectations of how you should feel after his passing to think about what you should have done, but you must honor those memories and moments that made your relationship with him so special.
Originally Posted by pokey07
Dad died a few years ago (when I was 19). He always wanted to go out, play golf, get outdoors, spend time together, but I was too much of a dick to appreciate it.
Originally Posted by gdl203
I often feel bad and somewaht guilty for having chosen to live so far from my parents - and today is one of those days.
Originally Posted by acidicboy
I see and interact with my folks everyday, albeit in our own dysfunctional ways, and yet I cannot stand them as much as up to a certain degree they cannot stand me too. I have often thought about this and I don't wanna do the guilt and regret thing when they're gone and I wish things were different.
It's natural for us to have these guilty feelings after we lose someone close to us, or even when reminded of these people's mortality. After my brother's suicide in January, I rode myself very, very hard for not being a better big brother and protecting him. I sank into a pretty nasty depression that I'm still clawing my way out of (I'm going to see a shrink on Monday, months later than I should have). But I've learned that we should, as much as we can, focus on the positive. Pining for what never happened won't change anything, but warm memories can soften these difficult times and begin the healing.