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post #61 of 103
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.
post #62 of 103
My sincerest condolences.
post #63 of 103
My condolences, sir.

Those Winter Sundays
by Robert Hayden

Sundays too my father got up early
and put his clothes on in the blueblack cold,
then with cracked hands that ached
from labor in the weekday weather made
banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him.

I'd wake and hear the cold splintering, breaking.
When the rooms were warm, he'd call,
and slowly I would rise and dress,
fearing the chronic angers of that house,

Speaking indifferently to him,
who had driven out the cold
and polished my good shoes as well.
What did I know, what did I know
of love's austere and lonely offices?
post #64 of 103
very sorry to hear this bob. just lost my grandfather, who was like a father to me. if the apple didnt fall far from the tree it sounds like your father was a great man
post #65 of 103
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for the important reminder that time is short for all of us and we need to make the most of it.
post #66 of 103
So sorry. We've had some near misses w/ my dad. Can't imagine him gone.
post #67 of 103
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I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Your post made me think. I often feel bad and somewaht guilty for having chosen to live so far from my parents - and today is one of those days.

+1
post #68 of 103
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So sorry. We've had some near misses w/ my dad. Can't imagine him gone.

recently, Mark?
post #69 of 103
I just got in an argument with my dad over something trivial. This made me put things in perspective. I'll apologize first thing in the morning.

Sorry for your loss sir.
post #70 of 103
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My condolences, sir.

Those Winter Sundays
by Robert Hayden


Great poem from a great poet who was taken from us far before his time. Captures the sentiments in this thread very well.
post #71 of 103
Condolences, Bob. Sorry for your loss.
post #72 of 103
So sorry to hear this. As mentioned I hope he live a full long life.
post #73 of 103
My words mean nothing.. But you have my sincerest condolences.
post #74 of 103
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Bob. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Even though it may be difficult, please do what you can to take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. We often neglect this, but it's very important.

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When I would visit he would ask me if I wanted to go hit a bucket of balls at the driving range. I always said no thanks. I really regret that now.

bob

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It's unfair to yourself and to your father's expectations of how you should feel after his passing to think about what you should have done, but you must honor those memories and moments that made your relationship with him so special.

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Dad died a few years ago (when I was 19). He always wanted to go out, play golf, get outdoors, spend time together, but I was too much of a dick to appreciate it.

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I often feel bad and somewaht guilty for having chosen to live so far from my parents - and today is one of those days.

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I see and interact with my folks everyday, albeit in our own dysfunctional ways, and yet I cannot stand them as much as up to a certain degree they cannot stand me too. I have often thought about this and I don't wanna do the guilt and regret thing when they're gone and I wish things were different.

It's natural for us to have these guilty feelings after we lose someone close to us, or even when reminded of these people's mortality. After my brother's suicide in January, I rode myself very, very hard for not being a better big brother and protecting him. I sank into a pretty nasty depression that I'm still clawing my way out of (I'm going to see a shrink on Monday, months later than I should have). But I've learned that we should, as much as we can, focus on the positive. Pining for what never happened won't change anything, but warm memories can soften these difficult times and begin the healing.
post #75 of 103
Very sorry, Bob. Condolences to you and your family.
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