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post #16 of 28
12/1/09 at 5:52am
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Originally Posted by longskate88 View Post
For some reason, I always revert back to the things I do alone vs. calling up people and seeing if they want to do something...maybe I just don't see the point in hanging out unless you have something new or interesting planned ahead of time. One more year of college, and that fallen heart feeling is all too familiar.
That really depends on who you are and what you want.... which can be a hard thing to figure out when you're young... but with only one year of college left, it's time you ask yourself what you really want, and pursue it. If you are truly an introvert, maybe the loner route is right for you. But if you want to connect with people, and you've been unsuccessful, you need to stop thinking about the people that others would choose to hang out with and look for the ones that you enjoy spending time with. The only way I know to do that is to put yourself in situations where you are comfortable and doing something you love... you'll have a high probability of meeting people there that you really enjoy. If not, you'll still be spending your time doing something you love.
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post #17 of 28
12/2/09 at 11:53pm
Then again, maybe you've been doing the best you can all along, and the life you're seeing for yourself really is the best you can reasonably expect to have - barring unfroseeable tragedy, of course. Maybe you're not stupid, maybe you haven't squandered any gifts or wasted any of your time; maybe you're average? Just a thought.
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post #18 of 28
12/3/09 at 12:01am
I've done a lot of crap and I didn't do a lot of crap that I should've done but you know what? big deal... life goes on, learn from experience, make the most out of your time, blablablabla.......
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post #19 of 28
12/3/09 at 7:37pm
Life is elsewhere.



(Title of a book by Milan Kundera)
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post #20 of 28
12/3/09 at 8:06pm
i experienced far too much last night
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post #21 of 28
12/3/09 at 11:02pm
start smoking
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post #22 of 28
12/4/09 at 12:16pm
I don't regret anything, as that would be a waste of time. However, I am well aware that I certainly did miss things. Every damn thing is a trade off. I partied extremely hard in my teens and very early 20s. Due to this, and the SES/culture I was born into, I missed ever being a big timer by getting into a top flight law, B, or med school. So I got to "exprience" many things dedicated students did not. Those students though, by being big timers, are going to experience things I never will, like leading wealthy lives in NYC, London, or Hong Kong.

That's just an example. Everything is a trade off. Regret nothing but try to make good cost/benefit style decisions.
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post #23 of 28
12/4/09 at 2:43pm
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post
I don't regret anything, as that would be a waste of time. However, I am well aware that I certainly did miss things. Every damn thing is a trade off. I partied extremely hard in my teens and very early 20s. Due to this, and the SES/culture I was born into, I missed ever being a big timer by getting into a top flight law, B, or med school. So I got to "exprience" many things dedicated students did not. Those students though, by being big timers, are going to experience things I never will, like leading wealthy lives in NYC, London, or Hong Kong.

That's just an example. Everything is a trade off. Regret nothing but try to make good cost/benefit style decisions.

A lot of wisdom in this post. Also makes me think as I am currently at a pretty important crossroads trying to choose between a sure thing and something aspirational.... hmm
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post #24 of 28
12/4/09 at 3:04pm
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Originally Posted by Flambeur View Post
A lot of wisdom in this post. Also makes me think as I am currently at a pretty important crossroads trying to choose between a sure thing and something aspirational.... hmm

Thank you for the compliment. Let us know which path you take.
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post #25 of 28
12/4/09 at 3:44pm
One thing I have now that I didn't have when young is contentment. I still have the same desires and curiosity but the urgency is slipping away.
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post #26 of 28
12/5/09 at 4:38am
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post
Every damn thing is a trade off. I partied extremely hard in my teens and very early 20s. Due to this, and the SES/culture I was born into, I missed ever being a big timer by getting into a top flight law, B, or med school.

And don't forget, it's quite possible that you could have eschewed the partying, studied/worked you ass off and still not made it to a top flight law, B, or med school. You'll never know one way or the other.
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post #27 of 28
12/5/09 at 6:25am
"The infinite possibilities each day holds should stagger the mind. The sheer number of experiences I could have is uncountable, breathtaking, and I'm sitting here refreshing my inbox. We live trapped in loops, reliving a few days over and over, and we envision only a handful of paths laid out ahead of us. We see the same things every day, we respond the same way, we think the same thoughts, each day a slight variation on the last, every moment smoothly following the gentle curves of societal norms. We act like if we just get through today, our dreams will come back to us. And no, I don't have all the answers. I don't know how to jolt myself into seeing what each moment could become. But I do know one thing: the solution doesn't involve watering down my every little idea and creative impulse for the sake of every day easing my fit into a mould. It doesn't involve tempering my life to better fit someone's expectations. It doesn't involve constantly holding back for fear of shaking things up." Randall Munroe
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post #28 of 28
12/5/09 at 9:50pm
Part of the problem is people don't know how to slow down and just watch the grass grow. I have plenty of days where everything is up for grabs and I'm running around like a maniac. At the end of the day you feel like you missed the boat and everything in between. I don't recall when I started doing this but I almost always watch the sunset by my favorite lake or on my porch with a cup of coffee. All I do is sit quietly and watch things go by. I no longer experience that feeling of I missed something or second guess what I did during the day.
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