Originally Posted by Mr. Moo
I have been asked by a very close friend to attend the unveiling of a headstone at a cemetery this Sunday. I believe this is 1 year after the death of their relative and, in my mind, this is a sort of celebration of their life and the unveiling of the headstone is a tribute. In other words, it is not a grim affair.
The problem is that I don't own a black suit, black sport coat or black shoes. I have black pants and a black shirt. I have a navy chalk-stripe suit and a black/grey chunky hounds tooth sport coat. I have dark brown shoes and many different shirts/ties.
What should I wear? A small part of me wants to put on black pants, a black shirt and the grey/black sport coat, but I don't want to look like a waiter. Then again, I don't want to offend anyone, and seeing as how this is a Russian/Jewish event, I am 99% sure most men will wear black regardless of whether it's a happy event or not (Russians love black for everything).
I really don't know what the fuss is about. Most people who attend unveilings have attended
the departed's funeral a year before. You evidently do not fit into this category. Otherwise,
you would have already known what this crowd wore. I am sure you will choose something
that will make you one of the best dressed. In any case, my experience attending
such events in the Bay Area, especially Silicon Valley, is that very few men in attendance
are appropriately dressed. Last January I attended the funeral of my wife's friend and colleague,
who died suddenly and tragically. Surely a grim affair. Nevertheless, of the fifty or so men
at the event, there were maybe two neckties. Even her husband and adult son were tieless.
No surprisingly, a noticeable few could not restrain themselves from fiddling with their
i-phones during the eulogies.