Asking out someone you don't know.

Originally Posted by hendrix

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SO you're talking for 5 minutes about whatever. Then the lecture starts. And afterwards you have to go to your next class, so you ask for her number. She'll give you her number if a) she likes you b) she's single c) she's not stuck up. THe only one of them you can do anything about is a). You have 5 minutes to leave a good impression. If she doesn't like you after 5 minutes of talking to you, chances are she never will.
OR YOU CAN JUST ASK HER OUT AND STOP ******* AROUND "What are you doing Friday night? [Place] down the street just opened and it's supposed to be great." instead of "Hi, I'd love to go out some time but for now can I have your number so I can randomly call you at my own convenience?"

Originally Posted by ranker

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Well, I think its pretty obvious to separate the men from the boys (as well as the haters) after reading some of these suggestions.

OP, don't do it. Unless you've mastered cold approaches, aka game, then your chances for success aren't high. The fact that you've been letting your interest fester for some time has probably rocketed your approach anxiety to a point where your interest could subconsciously come out as being desperate or stalker-ish.

My suggestion for someone in your position:
Sit next to her one day in class. Start a conversation with a smile and better yet a witty comment/joke If you're one of the poor souls that isn't naturally charismatic, then keep a few topics handy to chit chat back and forth between her. If she's not giving you any eye contact, smiles, (or other indicators of interest), then slow down and continue to build rapport with her before you "ask her out." If she's interested or engaging you in conversation, then take it to the next step and have her join you for some activity, whether it be coffee, a study session, a shopping trip to help you pick out something, or whatever it is that you two seem to share common interest in.

If she's just not interested, cut your losses. There's plenty of fish in the sea.

+100. I agree with this advice.

OP, let's assume she goes out with you. Do you know what you guys will do?

Tell her you want to stick it in her pooper.

I thought kids these days avoided real life introductions in favor of using facebook or myspace or twitter or whatever to engage in meaningless drunken sex on the weekends. . . is this not how it works now?

Borrow a forget-me-not from G.O.B. Bluth.

Originally Posted by Agnacious

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It's not acceptable and you will lose any chance if you proceed.

What is acceptable is to get to know someone, find out you have a common interest(s) and then ask her out.

You can invite her to a party (that is more than just you, or you and your dateless friends) and get to know here there.

Or you can just have one of your friends (not in the class) grab her ass and run to her defense. But that is more of an advanced icebreaker.

What? Sorry, this makes no sense to me. The only way "you will lose any chance" is if you never ask her out because you're paralyzed with indecision.

I'm also unclear on why being asked to a party by someone you've never spoken to is less intrusive than being asked out for lunch or coffee or whatever.

It's not half as complicated as a bunch of internet playas would like to make it. Instead of trying to think up lame "clever" strategies, why not walk up to her after class and say "Hi, I'm _____. What did you think of today's class?" If you get a friendly response, ask her if she'd like to go get a cup of coffee, or get something to eat sometime, or come to a party with you, or whatever.
It ain't rocket science.

"Hi, my name is blablabla" take it from there. Maybe ask her out the next class after that if you too have a good first contact. Oryou can listen to the freaks in there who probably recommend a magic trick and negative comments about her nails.

Originally Posted by why

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OR YOU CAN JUST ASK HER OUT AND STOP ******* AROUND

"What are you doing Friday night? [Place] down the street just opened and it's supposed to be great." instead of
"Hi, I'd love to go out some time but for now can I have your number so I can randomly call you at my own convenience?"

I was too lazy to read through all the BS before posting, so I hadn't seen this. +1

Clearly the OP has over thought this if he is coming to a clothing forum for advice. So approaching her would be bad, bad news. Chances are you'll get nervous, sound like an unconfident doofus and she'll say no. Here is your plan of attack:

1. Try and angle next to her for a class and start up conversation - "What'd you think of that test the other day", "Big football game tonight, huh?" This is what we call starting conversation.

2. Repeat step 1. Next class follow up on that. "Man, we creamed them the other day - can I cream you?" or whatever and transition this into "so what are you up to this weekend?". And transition that into "My frat/I'm/We're/my friend is having a party this weekend, you should swing by. Its gonna be fun" Just make sure its fun and not: http://www.theonion.com/content/node/32237

3. She can take it or leave it. But you just consistently try and small talk, put little invites or something to get some feeling back. If she comes to the party - its on. If not, find a new chick to angle but ALWAYS keep your line in the water. Just cause she doesnt doesnt bite the first time doesnt mean she wont drunkenly text you loooking to ****.

4. Congratulations, you just learned how to talk to a girl. If nothing else comes of this at least you can say you gave it the ol college try.

Originally Posted by Davidko19

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Clearly the OP has over thought this if he is coming to a clothing forum for advice. So approaching her would be bad, bad news. Chances are you'll get nervous, sound like an unconfident doofus and she'll say no. Here is your plan of attack:

1. Try and angle next to her for a class and start up conversation - "What'd you think of that test the other day", "Big football game tonight, huh?" This is what we call starting conversation.

2. Repeat step 1. Next class follow up on that. "Man, we creamed them the other day - can I cream you?" or whatever and transition this into "so what are you up to this weekend?". And transition that into "My frat/I'm/We're/my friend is having a party this weekend, you should swing by. Its gonna be fun" Just make sure its fun and not: http://www.theonion.com/content/node/32237

3. She can take it or leave it. But you just consistently try and small talk, put little invites or something to get some feeling back. If she comes to the party - its on. If not, find a new chick to angle but ALWAYS keep your line in the water. Just cause she doesnt doesnt bite the first time doesnt mean she wont drunkenly text you loooking to ****.

4. Congratulations, you just learned how to talk to a girl. If nothing else comes of this at least you can say you gave it the ol college try.

Yes, approaching a girl you'd like to ask out is clearly a bad strategy.

Originally Posted by lawyerdad

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Yes, approaching a girl you'd like to ask out is clearly a bad strategy.

Apparently you first need to practice in front of the mirror, then use a three pronged strategy with two accomplices to finally approach one of her relatives and then engineer an apparently random but, in reality planned to the last detail, encounter at the supermarket. Milk product alley or bust!!!

There are lots of possibilities, but you have to get her attention first.

Does she have a cool bag, hat, or whatever? Use it. But not in the "Hey I like your hat" way.

When you have an opportunity to pass her by (and leave) walk by and be just about to leave and the bag catches your eye (not her) and you say, "Is that a Louis Vuitton from 2003?" or whatever. She'll say yes, no, maybe. You say, "Hmm. " and walk away.

The fact that you ignore her and see her bag and then leave will confuse her. Then NEXT time you see her she'll want another interaction with you. If it's obvious she does, then you can say "Yes..?" and she's chasing you. If it's not obvious you can again play on her about some article or hairstyle or whatever.

After a time or two (and you'll see her in class often) she'll be open for a conversation. "Hey, they have a new hat store I want to check out - you should come with me".

Originally Posted by fredfred

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There are lots of possibilities, but you have to get her attention first.

Does she have a cool bag, hat, or whatever? Use it. But not in the "Hey I like your hat" way.

When you have an opportunity to pass her by (and leave) walk by and be just about to leave and the bag catches your eye (not her) and you say, "Is that a Louis Vuitton from 2003?" or whatever. She'll say yes, no, maybe. You say, "Hmm. " and walk away.

The fact that you ignore her and see her bag and then leave will confuse her. Then NEXT time you see her she'll want another interaction with you. If it's obvious she does, then you can say "Yes..?" and she's chasing you. If it's not obvious you can again play on her about some article or hairstyle or whatever.

After a time or two (and you'll see her in class often) she'll be open for a conversation. "Hey, they have a new hat store I want to check out - you should come with me".

Or you could just wear a T-shirt that says "I'm a Douche" and see if she takes the bait.

Originally Posted by why

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OR YOU CAN JUST ASK HER OUT AND STOP ******* AROUND

"What are you doing Friday night? [Place] down the street just opened and it's supposed to be great." instead of
"Hi, I'd love to go out some time but for now can I have your number so I can randomly call you at my own convenience?"

Oh, come on - where's the sport in that? Your approach has two drawbacks:

1. You get shot down quickly if she's not interested or spoken for, and therefore the relationship in potentia is over - leaving OP to weep in his shirley temple and post about it later. And cast the net again.

b) You find out that she is interested, she would like to have dinner/drinks/sex with you, and you actually have to follow through. EGADS. Who here wants THAT to happen?

Do you have any band-aid colored shoes? Wear them and tell her that your bag matches your shoes and ask if she'd like to see it. Do you have any Kiton jackets? Go up to her and nonchalantly open the jacket so she sees the label. Bonus points if there's a little 100% cashmere tag in there. Roll up your cuffs so she knows that your jeans were woven on an old turn of the century style loom. Tell her how comfortable your handsewn buttonholes are today. Tell her how many positive comments you got on your fit pics in the past week.

For people like us there are so many creative ways to impress a woman.