Originally Posted by sysdoc
Please allow me to explain the situation:
First of all, J broke a holy Internet rule, which is posting a private message on an open forum. I had posted this message here had I wanted it to become public. In short - you simply don't do that. It's dishonorable.
Second, I don't mind anyone in this forum (and that even includes my personal friend "Teacher") to benefit from or enjoy my former postings, write-ups, pictures. It actually honors me if you consider the stuff worth your while. You are all most welcome, even those who hate me. HOWEVER, I do not want that THIS FORUM continues to benefit from my work. The forum is an institution and I have my issues with this institution - they may be whatever, it's nobody's business. I simply cannot understand how any institution would display open hostility against me, while it actually still displays stuff that I have created. This, also, is at least dishonorable.
I do not claim that I have discovered the secret of mirror shining. What a load of bollocks! Our great grandfathers new it better than I do. However, I sat down and did a little work of love for other individuals to MAYBE benefit from it.
J is a coward for going public with my message. He is a fake for not being straight forward enough to accept that a person who has given to his forum is well allowed to take his ball and go home in dignity, to pick up a phrase from Tiger02.
We all are making this forum what it is. J benefits from that in one way or another - and I am not saying financially, at least not yet. The least thing he should provide in return is giving people the freedom to pack up and leave in peace.
You are entirely right that you can, at any time, decide you don't want to participate in a public forum and leave, you can't however take your past contributions with you, they're out in public space and will remain that way. Maybe if you had politely asked J to do it out of fairness, using arguments you've developed in this post he could have agreed but as we both know that wasn't the case. Now frankly if I were you, I would just:
1)Decide that posting and exchanging with people on this forum is worth more to me than my pride and ask to be re-integrated, letting time do it's work. (highly unlikely, if you need help just watch the 7 samurai scene where Kimura shaves his topknot to pass as a monk, works like a charm if you get the cultural signifiers
2)Leave and never look back, as this would only leasd to anger and humiliation (a lot more likely).