Acceptable behaviour? Or "too far"? - Page 2

Presto, the purpose of my post was more along the lines of...


It might not seem to mean a lot to you now but maybe it should. Sitting in the cancer ward talking to a guy who is going to lose an 8 year old daughter will put things in a different perspective. The same way it would for that guy to go to Ethiopia or some other place and watch a father helplessly watch his child starve to death...knowing that there is nothing he can do.

Something I've learned in life is that the things that really devastate you are the things you don't even worry about...the things that come out of nowhere and blindside you (like cancer). To me, there is nothing harder to deal with than the suffering of a loved one and being helpless to do anything about it. In comparison, the death of a loved one is much easier to cope with. The reality is that both are part of life for most people. And the reality is that the sooner one accepts this the sooner they will see how wonderful life can be and move on.

Life is not fair and terrible things happen to the best of people. That is life. It is not the things that happen but how you react to them that will make you happy or unhappy. It is YOUR choice. Ruining a shirt is a big deal to you right now because you are letting it be a big deal. There are many ways to cope but taking solace in the fact that there are others that have it worse off than me provides perspective for me. You have to ask yourself, "can I recover from this?" and not waste time moving on, if you can.

Faded501 and I concur; he wrote it well and I agree. And there's no sarcasm from me in the thread (which is difficult).

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Originally Posted by Presto87

I know a lot of members hate reading the "value of life" type threads - but (even) at 22, given what I've gone through as well ... I find it comforting to know that there are others on the same page.

I don't. But that's because I'm

reading them; discussing out loud is a different matter. I'm not in a dorm room anymore (damn) and you're correct, I'm 64. Thrice your age almost. And before you go running from the room let me tell you that I'm still learning because, you see, I've never been this old before and I'm not quite sure how to go about it. If that's any consolation.

you sure have lots of time to waste on the internet chatting with useless strangers.

Why not go find a job? do some graphic-designing like your major taught you?

post here: http://www.fmylife.com/ and get on with your life

Please post in the "Things that are pissing you off. " thread for related issues. Thank you.

Why?

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Originally Posted by lee_44106

you sure have lots of time to waste on the internet chatting with useless strangers.

This from the man who, according to SF stats, has had 5,165 exchanges with useless strangers.

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Originally Posted by sho'nuff

Please post in the "Things that are pissing you off. " thread for related issues. Thank you.

Back in September you and I shared a melancholy cyber moment about girls we passed up. I recall you (and me) unwantedly jarred to our senses by a very unsympathetic remark by Kunk. Who's the Kunk in this kid's thread?

haha. i remember . but still memory cloudy. i was kidding with that reply. just being snarky. i love kunk though. what did i say about kunk?

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Originally Posted by Presto87

A question for you: do you find it uncomfortable then, to discuss in person, these issues?

Yes. Unless everyone else in the room is 64. Which never happens. When they're younger, very young like you, they think your brain's on pause and that you smell funny. When they're older their brain

is on pause and they do smell funny.

Consider this. School's out. You're in the wild, starting fresh. You must conduct yourself differently than with those your own age, very very differently. Not necessarily

grownup (you may die before that state's ever reached). But you must use yourself to create yourself and that creation has to be something different. Don't ask me what or how. It may involve lying and bravado. You must do this soon. Gve yourself a year.