How To Cope With a Hard Breakup

Uh.... lets start with no being a *****. Seriously.

It sucks brah, we get it. Take a week off, maybe a month, but get your ******* head in the game. Under NO circumstances should this process take a 2.5 years or involve isolating yourself and friends. Find a new hobby. FORCE yourself to hit the gym, do something to take up your time, get out and enjoy the outdoors. Clear your mind.

Get over yourself. Your worried about how you will survive without someone there, learn to be your own man.

Originally Posted by Davidko19

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Uh.... lets start with no being a *****. Seriously.

It sucks brah, we get it. Take a week off, maybe a month, but get your ******* head in the game. Under NO circumstances should this process take a 2.5 years or involve isolating yourself and friends. Find a new hobby. FORCE yourself to hit the gym, do something to take up your time, get out and enjoy the outdoors. Clear your mind.

Get over yourself. Your worried about how you will survive without someone there, learn to be your own man.

I like this, I like this a lot.

I know I will survive, but I have quite the emotional void to fill. It hurts alot fellas.

We were in each others lives everyday for about 2 years...and suddenly when you lose someone that you could rely on emotionally to be there constantly, there is a large hole in your heart, as gay as it sounds. It's really hard.

I understand time and just sacking up and taking it is what it comes down to, but in the meantime, day by day, it's going to be a hell of a struggle.

Go nuts for a week or two. Drink like a fish, **** anything that moves, do copious amounts of drugs, go to vegas or the beach with friends, be a total douche.

Then pick yourself up out of the gutter, wash your face, and get on with your life. Do something different to change your **** in a good way. Whatever, new hobby, new work, new apartment...

Make a line of demarcation between that life and your life now and make sure the now life is awesome (said in neil patrick harris voice).

K

Originally Posted by Davidko19

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Uh.... lets start with no being a *****. Seriously.

It sucks brah, we get it. Take a week off, maybe a month, but get your ******* head in the game. Under NO circumstances should this process take a 2.5 years or involve isolating yourself and friends. Find a new hobby. FORCE yourself to hit the gym, do something to take up your time, get out and enjoy the outdoors. Clear your mind.

Get over yourself. Your worried about how you will survive without someone there, learn to be your own man.

Spoken like someone who's never had his heart broken, much less had a girlfriend of any sort.

How's the Casual Encounters section working out for you?

Originally Posted by Swag22

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I know I will survive, but I have quite the emotional void to fill. It hurts alot fellas.

We were in each others lives everyday for about 2 years...and suddenly when you lose someone that you could rely on emotionally to be there constantly, there is a large hole in your heart, as gay as it sounds. It's really hard.

I understand time and just sacking up and taking it is what it comes down to, but in the meantime, day by day, it's going to be a hell of a struggle.

Why did you breakup with her the first time?

Did you see it coming from her this time, or was it a total surprise?

Answering both questions may help you cope with the loss.

Best regards.

Originally Posted by Dedalus

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I don't think a hooker is good advice.

Originally Posted by imageWIS

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Or coke...!

I beg to differ.

Originally Posted by VKK3450

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Go nuts for a week or two. Drink like a fish, **** anything that moves, do copious amounts of drugs, go to vegas or the beach with friends, be a total douche.

Then pick yourself up out of the gutter, wash your face, and get on with your life. Do something different to change your **** in a good way. Whatever, new hobby, new work, new apartment...

Make a line of demarcation between that life and your life now and make sure the now life is awesome (said in neil patrick harris voice).

K

Also great advice.

Originally Posted by Flambeur

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I beg to differ.

I'll just leave it at: "to each his own"*


* although chicks love to do coke and ****... so even though I don't do it, I guess I condone the behavior for certain purposes.

Originally Posted by bawlin

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Spoken like someone who's never had his heart broken, much less had a girlfriend of any sort.

How's the Casual Encounters section working out for you?

On the contrary my friend, there was one particualr one-year relationship that hurt, but was my heart broken? **** NO. NO woman controls that much of me and my personality and I think the OP needs to realize there is more in his life than some "emotional gap filler". When a realtionship ends I fill the gap with heavy weight lifting and excercising, for one.

Does it hurt? **** yea, it sucks to be rejected and wasting that time but when you start neglecting yourself, your friends, your health, your career .... well, then thats a YOU problem. You cant blame her for that.

No one said its easy but each day it gets better. Trust me, take care of yourself and GET OUT in the world. Ever hear of a rebound? I guar-an-tee the next girl you talk to or go out on a date with will make you forget all about the ex.

Originally Posted by Davidko19

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On the contrary my friend, there was one particualr one-year relationship that hurt, but was my heart broken?
One year... oh my God! Is that how long they last in high school these days? However did you survive?! Jesus, and to think how close you were to knowing his middle name and favorite color!

Go out with friends and just enjoy yourself. It's a lot of mind over matter, or mind over... whatever, as I found out after the first one hit me like a train. If you really want to get over it, you can.

Originally Posted by unjung

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One year... oh my God! Is that how long they last in high school these days? However did you survive?! Jesus, and to think how close you were to knowing his middle name and favorite color!

A year isnt exactly a short term thing ... and not all of us are dumb/lucky(? LOL) enough to settle down with the first piece of ass that touches our weiner or thinks loves us.

Gotta keep your pimp hand strong. But Im sure you knew that, playa.

Originally Posted by VKK3450

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Go nuts for a week or two. Drink like a fish, **** anything that moves, do copious amounts of drugs, go to vegas or the beach with friends, be a total douche.

Then pick yourself up out of the gutter, wash your face, and get on with your life. Do something different to change your **** in a good way. Whatever, new hobby, new work, new apartment...

Make a line of demarcation between that life and your life now and make sure the now life is awesome (said in neil patrick harris voice).

K

It worked for me (minus the drugs), but reaching rock bottom is scary. Alcohol just made the pain worse, but at least I didn't bottle up any feelings. It felt good getting it all out there and telling friends. Gluck sir, and realize that life goes on. We've all been there at somepoint or another.

Originally Posted by Davidko19

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Uh.... lets start with no being a *****. Seriously.

It sucks brah, we get it. Take a week off, maybe a month, but get your ******* head in the game. Under NO circumstances should this process take a 2.5 years or involve isolating yourself and friends. Find a new hobby. FORCE yourself to hit the gym, do something to take up your time, get out and enjoy the outdoors. Clear your mind.

Get over yourself. Your worried about how you will survive without someone there, learn to be your own man.

Best advice so far. You're going to want to withdraw, and it may seem obvious, but withdrawal in this instance is synonymous with isolation. And isolation, generally, is not good for the emotionally wounded. Get out with people. Talk to your best friends and family, and don't just lament. Have fun. ****, break ups for me, in a way, are good for me because they allow me to realize how great some of my friends and family are. Hang in there, you'll come out on top. It was said earlier, but it bears repeating (or paraphrasing, depending on the source of the quote). Time heals old wounds.

Originally Posted by unjung

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One year... oh my God! Is that how long they last in high school these days? However did you survive?! Jesus, and to think how close you were to knowing his middle name and favorite color!

I had no idea the emotional weight of a relationship was ascertainable by any measure, let alone time. Will you tell me what unitary measurement you are using that allows you to know how rational a reaction is to a relationship you know nothing about? You'll solve all sorts of problems for philosophers and psychologists and you won't look like such a stupid asshole.