I'm going to DISAGREE about the anti-why statements. He's making a valid point; it's just that it is an emotional issue and almost nobody on that thread is going to look at the issue in a non-emotional way. I'm not saying I'd have said the same things he did in that way, but I think he's being highly misinterpreted. Further, he's using his characteristic tone, which a lot of people don't get and automatically label "ASSHOLE." Taking away the why-isms... I think his basic point is valid. I read it as, "We all have awful life situations. They suck and sadly, that's life. It's not all unicorns and rainbows. Sympathy is fine, understanding is good, but automatic passes and just a lot of hand holding and petting make situations WORSE and not better. Nobody wants to be cold and unloving, but at the same time, we don't want to be enabling unhealthy emotional attitudes and immaturity."