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post #1 of 65
10/14/09 at 11:36pm
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So tell me, are they worth it?
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post #2 of 65
10/14/09 at 11:48pm
Do you feel the need to rent friends for 4 years of your life?
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post #3 of 65
10/15/09 at 12:42am
Yes you need to pledge a fraternity. Preferably one not full of losers.
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post #4 of 65
10/15/09 at 12:50am
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so far not remotely helpful.
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post #5 of 65
10/15/09 at 3:09am
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So tell me, are they worth it?
This time, I'll be a dick:Ever hear of search?
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post #6 of 65
10/15/09 at 3:32am
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wat is search
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post #7 of 65
10/15/09 at 4:06am
I know of no one that regretted their choice. For those that joined a fraternity, they were happy they did. For those that didn't, were happy they didn't.

If you are inclined, pledge. If you don't like it, drop out.
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post #8 of 65
10/15/09 at 10:38am
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Do you feel the need to rent friends for 4 years of your life?

Why do you think you are paying for friends?

Dues go to common activities and expenses like parties or house maintenance. Same as you would do if you rented a place with a bunch of buddies (only a bit more organized).

It's not like senior brothers are pocketing $5 a week to hang out with you.

K
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post #9 of 65
10/15/09 at 10:54am
I joined a fraternity and have mixed feelings about the experience. The fraternity was useful because it helped plug me into a social scene I would have never known. On the other hand, it served as a crutch and may have prevented other experiences. Sometimes I wonder what college would have been like had I never pledged. Ultimately I phased out of frat life towards the final years of college. Pounding beers and partying can get old when you finally take the time and decide to find a career.
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post #10 of 65
10/15/09 at 11:58am
Depends on where your interests lie and if you prefer to socialize in similar ways that the fraternity does. How big is greek life in your school... 40% of undergraduates or 5%? Start going to parties they throw, go on coke dates, or even better hang out at the house at a "normal" down time in the week. I assume your school has a semester that passes before rush will start in spring. You're lucky your school is setup so that you're not forced to rush in fall right as classes are starting. You'll be able to get a better feel for the dynamic of the greek scene on campus. Keep in mind if you second guess whether you should do it, or cannot devote the time you shouldn't do it. You'll just be half-assing the expereince. That said, being GDI certainly has its benefits too. Segregation starts leveling out as you become an upperclassmen, and you'll have people who are much more accepting than when they were first initiated. People start realizing how childish it is to not want to hang out with people who aren't in their fraternity, simply because they didn't join their frat as a freshman. They realize it makes much more sense to hang around people you like to be around the most, and get along with the best.
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post #11 of 65
10/15/09 at 3:14pm
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That said, being GDI certainly has its benefits too. Segregation starts leveling out as you become an upperclassmen, and you'll have people who are much more accepting than when they were first initiated. People start realizing how childish it is to not want to hang out with people who aren't in their fraternity, simply because they didn't join their frat as a freshman. They realize it makes much more sense to hang around people you like to be around the most, and get along with the best.

I don't find this to be an accurate assessment at all. I've always had friends outside of the organization, as well as close friends/brothers that lie within. In addition, my fraternal ties has also given me opportunity to create close relationships with people I would otherwise have not known, especially when moving or traveling to various places throughout life (the same can be said about my wife and her sorority sisters). I'm at a point in my life where I'm becoming increasingly more involved with the graduate chapter, but I personally have no regrets in the decision I've made.

I don't think anyone has to pledge to make the most of their college life, but for me, my experiences have been nothing less than a blessing.
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post #12 of 65
10/15/09 at 3:15pm
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I don't find this to be an accurate assessment at all. I've always had friends outside of the organization, as well as close friends/brothers that lie within. In addition, my fraternal ties has also given me opportunity to create close relationships with people I would otherwise have not known, especially when moving or traveling to various places throughout life (the same can be said about my wife and her sorority sisters). I'm at a point in my life where I'm becoming increasingly more involved with the graduate chapter, but I personally have no regrets in the decision I've made. I don't think anyone has to pledge to make the most of their college life, but for me, my experiences have been nothing less than a blessing.
+1, except for the graduate chapter part.
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post #13 of 65
10/15/09 at 3:55pm
literally cant imagine my life if i hadn't done it.
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post #14 of 65
10/15/09 at 5:03pm
It is like a lot of things in life: you get out what you put in.

If you enjoy the brothers, spend alot of time with them, participate in the philanthropies, then you'll enjoy your experience. The same goes for not rushing. If you already have a social life, and meet a great group of friends, and are active within the school/community, then you'll enjoy that, as well.

Greek life and non-Greek life aren't mutually exclusive. You really don't have anything to lose by meeting the chapters at your school and potentially rushing.

PS: Make your decision on the personal qualities of the brothers. Also, look at the Senior borhters. Are they still active? Are they good guys? Are they level headed? That is usually a godd sign as to where the fraternity is heading. Having "bros" (and I mean that in every sense of the word) that are great to party with is usually cool freshamn year, but after that you really grow apart from them. I know many fraternitymen that joined the "sweet dude" fraternity and grew to resent their decision as they matured.
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post #15 of 65
10/15/09 at 5:10pm
I enjoyed my time in the chapter, and I would say the money I paid in dues has been more than returned to me in terms of professional connections, mentorship and just all-around good times, during school and now three years after.

Get on the executive though, for sure.
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