This one is for some laughs, as well as some advice. I recently decided I wanted to find a better tailor in my area (30 min north of Philly). I find about this guy Joe Centofani, he seems to be regarded as the best around here on SF, so I go in there and I think it's his daughter who probably about mid 40's, tells me im too young to be this big (im 24 and wear a 48r). I told her that i have lost some weight a few years ago, but have sat where im at for a while now. I was about 350lbs, now around 260. She doesn't take the time to even pin my sleeves at the same length, joe noticed this though and pointed it out to her, then when I was leaving she says (maybe as a joke) i only need to loose 40 more pounds to look good in a suit. Should I go somewhere else or just deal with her comments? Sure I know i'm fat, but i don't need her telling me. Also I want to build a relationship with my tailor, not sure how that will happen with her.
Basically, there are three problems here: 1) how you feel you were treated, 2) the job a tailor is supposed to do with people and 3) what overweight means.
Obviously, you were not treated well. Making comments on things you did not ask for is not very polite. I feel though that such comments are very common in some mediterannean cultures and rather than being arrogant, people who make them want to show some interest for your person(they are overprotective in a way: because we like you, we are telling you what is best for you). Obviously again, this was counter-productive because she did not understand how YOU felt about it.
If a tailor prefers to only work with slim people, he would not get many customers I think. One of the biggest advantages with bespoke is that virtually every body type can have bespoke suits, while every body type can not have RTW that fit perfectly.
Last but not least: overweight or obesity is something made by the slim to torture the others. They do that Because they think they are the norm. They think they are virtuous When we will become the majority, bro, we will torture them for being too lean. What about that?