Originally Posted by mjHession
This one is for some laughs, as well as some advice. I recently decided I wanted to find a better tailor in my area (30 min north of Philly). I find about this guy Joe Centofani, he seems to be regarded as the best around here on SF, so I go in there and I think it's his daughter who probably about mid 40's, tells me im too young to be this big (im 24 and wear a 48r). I told her that i have lost some weight a few years ago, but have sat where im at for a while now. I was about 350lbs, now around 260. She doesn't take the time to even pin my sleeves at the same length, joe noticed this though and pointed it out to her, then when I was leaving she says (maybe as a joke) i only need to loose 40 more pounds to look good in a suit. Should I go somewhere else or just deal with her comments? Sure I know i'm fat, but i don't need her telling me. Also I want to build a relationship with my tailor, not sure how that will happen with her. Thoughts?
Maybe I am wrong but to me the (no pun intended) 'measure' of a good tailor would include the skills to make a suit for a man of any disposition, and do it well. The daughters comments were certainly direct, but only you saw her manner and her eyes. On a positive note (If you have relayed the words of the daughter accurately), the way I would infer it is encouragement to lose a bit more weight, which is your goal anyway. Question: Was her manner sincere? Did she smile in a nice way while saying it? It is possible she may want you for herself once her father is done working on your suit. This may be your future wife, who knows?
I congratulate you on the weight you have already lost. If you feel that she was genuine, and in her own way was trying to encourage you, then perhaps you can go back there for a second visit. If she is sincere, tell her,'You make me look good today, and minus 40lbs from now, I'll be back for alterations...with flowers. Please keep us updated.