Originally Posted by Nantucket Red
You asked the question. Any thoughts on the feedback you've received so far?
Ya'll internet too fast for me.
Originally Posted by Margaret
What's her relationship with the child's father? That's what I'd be concerned about.
They're married. Relax, I'm kidding. He isn't involved at all. I don't even know the last time she's seen him.
Originally Posted by chrysalid
how old's the kid?
6 or 7.
Originally Posted by Fabienne
Have you already met the child?
Originally Posted by Bradford
I went with a couple of girls with kids, but other issues ultimately drove us apart.
That's what I'm interested in. How'd that work out for you?
Originally Posted by Get Smart
it wouldnt work me *me* because I can't stand children....
I'm not incredibly fond of them, either, which is one of my bigger qualms.
Originally Posted by Jen
Fundamentally, the relationship is between you and the woman. That is the relationship that requires work, and the one that will last. Kids eventually grow up and leave home (we all hope!). As for your relationship with the kid, if the mom is smart, you will be at most a friend to him/her (unless you make a permanent commitment), and not even that until you are fairly close.
Exactly. She is (smart). I really didn't mean to spur a million takes on what my relationship w/the little guy would be. I'm 23 years old; I don't want a relationship w/a little guy. We've tossed a ball around and goofed off, but he's got enough older dudes in his life that I'm sure I get lost in the shuffle (we all live in a college town, and she's got plenty of male friends). But, how different is she from the girls I'm used to? I mean, she isn't out hunting
for a daddy or anything, is she? I don't know; I know ya'll can't answer that over these internets. She's different enough, I suppose: sort of a quasi-neo anarchist hippie. (I can't seem to attract normal girls, nor do I seem to be attracted to them.) She loves her little guy to death, though, which I also find attractive. And, perhaps the clincher, was that she told me not
to try to have sex w/her the first time we were on a bed together, instead of the opposite. Damn that was refreshing. Thanks all.