Originally Posted by Fabienne
Have you already met the child?
Very good point - because if you have not yet met the child, I would keep it that way - at least in the early stages. If you two get to the point where you want to make it serious, that's the time to let the kid know that mommy has a new friend.
Just remember - if it doesn't work out, it's going to be harder on the kid than on you and your girl. Plus - the kid probably already has some residual guilt from the divorce/separation.
I went with a couple of girls with kids, but other issues ultimately drove us apart. I have a very good friend who married a girl with two young kids and they call him dad and it's working great. You just have to be very careful and remember that everything you and your girl do affects the child, her ex and possibly other people as well.