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I am by no means an expert, but anyone with even a modicum of exposure to the court system will tell you that things will not be getting better. It is extremely unlikely that a man like Derek will break his pattern of behavior. I am not a psychologist, but a lawyer, and my belief is that people in your situation simply don't know enough about the statistics to realize Derek is not special. There are literally thousands of other "Dereks" out there who could be pointed to as case studies. What will happen to your sister if she stays with him is not pretty and easily predicted.
There are those that say you can bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. However, my best advice to you is to attempt to make that horse drink as much as you can. Your sister should realize that if she has a one year old, keeping that child in a household with someone like Derek will have serious consequences for it down the line.
As others said, I can't even hope to understand her psychology, but she should make every attempt to press charges against this guy early and often. File for divorce and get a restraining order.
Truth.
But let me take the next step, OP: She's gone back to Derek. A few times. She knows what's coming, and she still goes back. What can you do? she's chosen Derek over her own flesh and blood. Do you pursue the idea that she's mentally incapacitated and needs help? How do you make that call?