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post #31 of 46
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Maybe the man with the brown shirt was deemed boring. ("Negatives" such as a lack of finances or lousy personal hygeine probably would have been sensed earlier.)

The story does illustrate the principle that dressing the wrong way is more likely to lead to rejection than dressing the right way, by itself, is to lead to success. (No, red isn't as important as fit, and it's unlikely to do good except on a stylish shirt or as an accent color.)

But - listen up, doubters - there is research suggesting that looking the right way - total appearance, more than clothes - is a major factor on the first date.

The "short notice" theory is sensible (and plans might not be finalized until even later), but it sounds like at least two other issues ahead of it.
1) Men don't realize how important dating attire is.
2) The men who dress badly enough to ruin dates don't get many dates. (That includes men who would have to do emergency shopping for acceptable clothes.)
post #32 of 46
There was a Seinfeld episode about that. Wearing the same clothes over and over seems either wildly eccentric or a real turn-off. Most people who think they are the former aren't.
post #33 of 46
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Dressing for a date depends on the person with whom you date !!!!!

Jessica
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"With whom you date"? Are you talking about double dating, or do you mean the person you are on a date with?
post #34 of 46
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Originally Posted by wpeters View Post
A female friend of mine met a guy, and went on several dates with him. On the first night they met, he was wearing a fairly nondescript brown shirt. On the first date, he wore the same shirt. On the second date, same shirt. She began commenting to her friends about it, and trying to figure out what his deal was. Third date? You guessed it: same shirt. In between their third date and their fourth (and final) date, she bumped into him at a bar. He was wearing the brown shirt. On the fourth date, he wore a different shirt, and she broke up with him. The shirt issue wasn't determinative, but it contributed to her decision.

I'm still at a loss to explain this, though I have several theories. Anyone?

Haha.

It's interesting the views women have on the clothes men wear. A girl I know was telling me yesterday that her gf is dating a "loser" who wears shorts everywhere, even to fancy dinners, even in winter. Considering she is Goth, wears some strange (to me) clothes, and Goth men wear counterculture clothes and make up, I thought it interesting that she would make comments about male slovenliness.


Somehow I wouldnt have thought grooming or clothes would rate highly amongst them considering they are supposedly non judgmental. But on their website they do give points to each other for style which makes me imagine that within the Goth culture that there might even be dandies
post #35 of 46
If you're wearing clothes, it's not a 'date.'
post #36 of 46
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Originally Posted by mensimageconsultant View Post
But - listen up, doubters - there is research suggesting that looking the right way - total appearance, more than clothes - is a major factor on the first date.


Your appearance is a major factor on the first date?!?!?!?

No way!

(who would have guessed)
post #37 of 46
I must say I almost never wear red, but the hottest girl I've ever dated long-term approached me the one time I wore a red shirt out.

I do think it helps attract attention. Everyone else wears blue.
post #38 of 46
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For a man, as an assessment of personality. (If it's the first meeting in person, then assessment of attractiveness is at least as important.) It also can be a cue as to motive. He who dresses very casually might not be seeking something as formal as a committed long-term relationship.
post #39 of 46
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I must say I almost never wear red, but the hottest girl I've ever dated long-term approached me the one time I wore a red shirt out.

I do think it helps attract attention. Everyone else wears blue.
Well, if we want to get into this psychobabble, wearing something that stands out does display confidence, which is a very attractive quality (assuming you're not skulking in the shadows trying to avoid being noticed in it, obviously). This is why I will now be approaching women wearing only these shirts (well, I may wear pants as well).



post #40 of 46
Is the whole African tribesman look in season now?

JB
post #41 of 46
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Actually, j, you have just helped explain the popularity of stripeys and other unattractive club looks.
post #42 of 46
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I must say I almost never wear red, but the hottest girl I've ever dated long-term approached me the one time I wore a red shirt out.

I do think it helps attract attention. Everyone else wears blue.

I have red hair and chicks are all over me.
post #43 of 46
just don't wear a suit, look like a tool, or look like you tried too hard. although don't look like you totally forgot about the date and just threw on some sweats, either.
post #44 of 46
I would dress moderately but for the occasion.
post #45 of 46
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Originally Posted by montecristo#4 View Post
I have red hair and chicks are all over me.

same. red hair's where it's at.
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